Mental health

please teach your daughters that having a voice is more important than being nice. having a backbone is more important than being palatable. having standards is more important than being liked. and having self respect is more important than being chosen....#staystrong #nevergiveup 💫✨️🤲💪💰🎅🥂🌮🤦‍♂️

Here is a topic which I find fascinating:
Addiction.

Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you.

There is something polarising about this term yet I want to share some of my observations:

I’ve read countless accounts of people who undergo therapy for a range of addiction related issues:

Dr7gs
Po7nography
G7mbling
Stoc7 Marke7
Online G7ming
Alco7ol

Now here is the thing, as a community and Ummah, I generally get the overwhelming impression we are society are are highly critical and judgemental of these people for their “chosen” self-inflicted mess and quickly box them in like animals in cages. Every outcome is the result of a bad decision and all that jazz.

So my observation is that as a society, and as a wider ummah especially here in the UK, we fail to recognise that the very traits which make those people unattractive and worthy of our hierarchical respect ladder, we often passively carry ourselves, silently coasting under the proverbial radar.

For example a person who smokes smokes a leafy substance, clearly feels the urge to pursue some kind of purpose in this and goes on to abuse their body. They have a total reliance the substance and care not for the social, economic and moral fabric it destroys. Somehow is his addiction more worthy of criticism than other forms of addiction?

What about the countless Muslims in developed economies who subconsciously overeat zealously, are addicted to substances that are way more addictive than the one mentioned above, pacifying their trauma with their jaw and are visibly out of shape. Not only does this lead to a decline in self-care, it almost always results in self esteem issues and incubates an ecosystem of self -destruction of health (adult onset diabetes etc)

Somehow is this addiction less worthy of public discussion and criticism? Because it is a donut and not a spliff? Is it socially acceptable to be overweight and destroy your joints and tendons and your organ function? Cost the state billions collectively for diabetic related healthcare upkeep and admissions?

Is a foodie who is a sugar addict more worthy of empathy and impartiality than a fit, healthy, in shape person with eating discipline but relies on a substance to dial down their resentment at life’s consequences?

Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you. We all have an addiction deep down. Some of us self sabotage and don’t really know why we do it but hey we are quick to condemn those who do exactly what we do, just the substance is different.

Hi

Speak to ALLAH because He understands your unspoken pain!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💖💫

He loves hearing your voice every single time you call!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💖🦋🤲

Relax your shoulders because ALLAH has everything under control!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🦋🤲💫

Put your full trust in the Maker of the stars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤲🦋💫

Clap for yourself
No one else knows how many times
You almost gave up. ✨🤍