Psychology & Neurodiversity

Never measure your worth by someone else's recognition.

Don’t get lost in your pain, know that one day your pain will become your cure.
― Rumi

(COULD YOU FIND A WAY TO LET ME DOWN SLOWLY, A LITTLE SYMPATHY I HOPE YOU CAN SHOW ME) 😅😗🙂 Hey y'all! I know it ain't Valentine's Day 💘 but today we talking about LOVE 😜💕. Topic of discussion, well it's more of a question actually, SHOULD LOVE BE UNCONDITIONAL!? OR conditioner 🤣 jk CONDITIONAL 😌🤔🫣. Let's get to personal story time aka me trauma dumping 😂😎

So yesterday my BELOVED father was upset that my siblings went out to watch movies very late at night. Remember how I told you, he possibly has ADHD!? Well he was having a self monologue moment and I heard him say," I have two daughters none of them offer me tea ☕ or breakfast 🍳🥞..I ask them if they ate something instead 🙂 what a world we live in" So today since I was home due to 🤙🏼 calling out from work(PRAY FOR ME Y'ALL !! IF I GET FIRED I'M COOKED 🍚😭) As soon as he came home I offered him tea and made him breakfast as well 😤🤗🫡.
I felt bad hearing that from him yesterday, honestly it's not that I don't want to do such things, (NOT TO MAKE EXCUSES OR ANYTHING 😭 BUT HEAR ME OUT) most of the time I'm emotionally unavailable to be there, to COEXIST with my family members. But anyways. He was happy and very much satisfied with me afterwards 🙂‍↕️☺️🤭. That made me wonder,

Is his love CONDITIONAL? 💘 It feels like it, maybe I'm taking it the wrong way honestly I usually MISUNDERSTAND my parents for good and bad reasons. Moral of the story, I think when you love someone it should be unconditional, you don't love them because they do something for you, they give something to you, they care about you, how they interact with you (If that makes sense) IMMA BE BIPOLAR NOW OKIE? 🤣😤😭

CONDITIONAL Love also doesn't seem like a bad thing, it's the safest way to protect your peace, protect your heart ❤️ make sure you're not being used for another person's benefits. So what do you think? Overall I think it really really really depends on the vibe, cuz anything could go sideways 😌💕🤣. Choose wisely 🦉 TOODLES

Serious question, no offense. 😭

What makes a man look at a woman who's clearly way out of his league and think, "Yeah... I've got a shot"? Is it confidence? Delusion? Manifestation? Because I really need someone to explain the psychology behind this. 💀

It's better to distance yourself from explanation. If someone say you're bad, say, *yes, of course we are bad.

This may be my longest post yet.. 🥸
If you read this, I hope its of benefit. Don't care for engagement, my intention is to help even one person.

Been here for a number of years embarrassingly, on & off. Some of us have been beta users since 2023.

I believe that's when I mentally logged out after witnessing the mentality of people here.

I thought I was strong enough to ignore, but upon reflection, I've let the evil words from so called Muslim men, get to me about age. Lost count how many times I've witnessed claims that from 29 you're considered 'faulty goods' or 'expired'.

Trying not to write a dissertation.. so here's a summary of my experience. Maybe my wasted years will protect others from the same.

1. If you're wanting someone with the same destination goal: jannah al firdos..

2. If you haven't been to uni..

3. If you want to serve both sets of parents, not just the man's..

4. If you've given up music for the sake of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَىٰ, don't celebrate birthdays or free mix without purpose..

5. If you observe hijab with abaya/jilbab or intend to wear niqab..

6. If you're not into social media & what the rest of the world are into..

7. If you're into deen AND health & fitness..

8. If you crave a deep, loving & non transactional connection..

9. If you've been protected from zina, & want someone who wants you for your character over your appearance alone..

10. If you value people's heart rather than what they provide..

If all the above apply to you, & you're a lot younger than me, please do NOT rely solely on muzz.. Explore all other halal avenues. Leave this place as a last resort.

Its soul destroying, I let it get to me so much that I haven't been able to speak to anyone for the sake of marriage in years. Don't be like me.

(I'm at peace with not being married ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ, but I've noticed that a lot of people struggle with loneliness, so not everyone can be at peace with this..)

السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

There’s something so peaceful about starting the day after fajr with: “Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqeer

I don't think Muzz is a good app for finding a spouse. What's your opinion?

The strongest relationships are built by two people who never stop teaching, learning, and growing together.

Your emotions aren’t the enemy. Your reaction is. Neuroscience shows that an intense emotion physically lasts only 90sec in your body. After that, it’s your thoughts that keep it alive.
Angry at your partner? Stressed after work? Before you text, before you snap, before you decide — breathe 3 times. Deeply.