I honestly wish there were a filter to hide profiles with heavy makeup. 😔

I also think every girl puts that on is 100 % gold digger 😡

Hi to everyone 👋

Salam alaykum to everyone.
Let's have a real and a honest talk for a minute.
I keep seeing this frustrating trend popping up on platforms like this and in our communities as well. People are explicitly putting "Syed only" in their bios, or families are flat-out rejecting amazing, pious Muslims (boys/girls) just because they don't have the title of "Syed" attached to their name.

Let me be straight with you: this is absolute nonsense.

This is far from what is the teachings of Islam. This isn't Islam but a leftover cultural toxic trait from the days of Jahiliyyah (ignorance) that people are trying to dress up as religious piety.

When we look at our Deen, what did Allah (swt) actually tell us? The Quran doesn't say "the best of you are those from a specific bloodline." It says clearly that "the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the one with the most Taqwa (piety)."
When the Prophet (pbuh) and his Ahlul Bayt (as) told us how to choose a spouse, they gave us two simple criteria: "faith and good character". That's it.
Nowhere did they say you need to form an exclusive club based on lineage.

And honestly, the ironic things is being a Sayyid is supposed to be a heavy responsibility. It means you are tasked with reflecting the humility, morals, and justice of the Prophet (pbuh). It is not a VIP pass to look down on others or fuel tribalism.
When a family rejects a righteous, believing Muslim/Muslimah just because they are "non-Syed," they are literally going against the Sunnah of the very Prophet they claim to honor so much. So, Let’s not forget that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) arranged the marriage of his own noble cousin to Zayd bin Harithah, a freed slave. Why? Specifically to crush these kinds of fake, tribal status walls.

Anyways, i advice you or request you, don't let this un-Islamic cultural baggage mess up your lives or delay your marriages.
Don't feed into it: Keep this tribalism out of your own requirements.
Educate your parents: If your family is stuck in this mindset, gently but firmly stand your ground. Remind them of the Sunnah.
Focus on the real stuff: Look for a spouse with a pure heart, a good head on their shoulders, and a real connection with Allah.

There is a reason guys who are not financially secure are the majority here on this app.
And there is a reason why professional, educated, financially secure women are also the majority here.

I know the reason. But remember people never listened to prophets. So they won't listen to me either. Maybe listen to yourselves. What are your thoughts?

What is your job

Dear Muzz people…

Aik sincere question.

If you’re not ready for marriage, why are you on a marriage app?

Aur agar interest lose ho jaye, bas itna keh dena:
“I don’t think we’re compatible.”

Trust me, closure hurts less than confusion.

Let’s make respect the bare minimum.

Are you someone who loves weekend camping trips and long trail walks, or someone who prefers recharging on the couch all day? #Sunday🌞

Thoughts on finding a marriage

I hope I’m wrong but I feel like most people in this times are not getting the person they want to marry soon (unless Allah SWT wills of-course). This is not me being pessimistic. This is me finally seeing the society as it is.

Maybe for those who are in a certain level of socioeconomic hierarchy, this is not a problem at all. They can afford multiple spouses/kids, or expensive lifestyle, designer clothes, gadgets and ornaments (side affairs if needed). For those people marriage is just a procedure.

But not for us. For those trying to balance deen and a simple family life, this whole project of finding someone is like a slot-machine game. And it’s less about the app/platforms themselves and more about how people are now in general and how society collectively has changed as a whole.

What will never change is the algorithm of who is of worth to us. At the end of the day, we are just a wallet/face to someone else. It’s the ugly truth. We can deny and keep telling ourselves no, we are different, and so there are people who are like us, who are different. But I think denial and that’s what is causing the suffering.

So what now?

Well, that loneliness is probably not going to go away. In all likelihood, we’re probably going to carry it to our graves. But people have needs. Those needs should have been met. But they won’t be sadly. As a society, the whole ship is sinking, it’s going on a downward spiral.

Everyone is desperate to be saved. But can a sinking person ever save another sinking person?

My personal approach so far is, well I accept that I currently don’t have those things that will make me highly eligible to the acceptance of the kind of person I’m comfortable with. Both my biology and finance is messed up. Neither the lady or her parents will see me as someone who is capable. I think I’m blessed to be capable in a much different way, but in late capitalism and the bog of where I live those skills are irrelevant. They are redflags and weaknesses.

Maybe miracles do happen. But it doesn’t happen immediately if I wish for it. So there’s no point in waiting for it. It’s not my department.

It’s nice to have someone beside. But what good is a garden if I don’t have a house for it?

So my default mode right now is, I’m probably dying alone. Which is fine. I’m in the process of accepting it. It’s much better than ending up in a wrong garden and regret being there till I die.

I’ll be open. If someone takes interest, I want to respond kindly and with as much respect as possible.

But I’ve decided not to be desperate anymore. There’s much to explore in this world than just marriage. It’s true that a good marriage is a blessing. But if I am not eligible, why should I kill myself over it? Why should I obsess over something that is not for me yet.

I still think there are things to celebrate and cherish. I have a son. Even though he will not be with me, I’ll wait for the day he’ll truly see who loved him with the whole of his heart.

Looks like if I continue on a halal path for business, I’ll get by in sha Allah. But I’ll probably not become a billionaire. Which is again fine by me. I don’t want to end up so filthy rich that I forget Allah SWT in a vain arrogance of wealth.

Health-wise, I have low life expectancy it, seems. So it’s natural that people will avoid prospects with disability. I used to hate myself for this. But again, I did not choose to be born like this. If I die early, I die early. Getting married is not going to change this.

So overall, I’ve found my personal conclusion. A closure. This changes nothing. Except that I can focus on of the other areas of life, my work for example, rather than investing extensive time in pursuing a dead end.

Pardon for this loud inner monologue. I think I’ve found the acceptance I was looking for. I can sleep now.

Thank you for reading!

Need one girl

Assalam alaikum Jamaa, anyone aged 18 - 19? (Not brothers)