All things marriage

Assalamu Alaikum. I am a Bengali Muslim woman working in the corporate sector. I value faith, kindness, mutual respect, and family. I am here with sincere intentions for marriage and am looking for a practising, emotionally mature Bengali Muslim partner. Preference will be given to those who are settled in Europe or North America. I respectfully prefer someone who has never been married and is older than me. May Allah guide us to what is best. InshaAllah.

I have a question for the men on this app. How do you feel when a girl sends you a compliment (marriage side) or DM request?

What is something a woman uses every day that a man will only use once in his life?

Salamu alaikom Everybody,

I'm here with serious intentions. I'm looking for a genuine relationship built on honesty, respect, and good communication, something that I hope will eventually lead to marriage and building a peaceful life together.

I'm not interested in playing games or wasting anyone's time. I believe the right relationship should feel like a partnership, where two people support each other, grow together, and create something meaningful.

If you're genuinely interested, make it known. I'm not here to play games.

For the divorced:

Based on your past experience, what is your non negotiables for your next marriage?

What are things you realised you cannot tolerate? And what are the things you miss, if any?

Happy couples don’t have low standards. They have the right standards.💎

Research highlighted by the Gottman Institute shows that some of the most successful couples were those who, even as newlyweds, refused to tolerate hurtful behaviour from one another.

In other words, the couples who were happier later on were not the ones who ignored rudeness, disrespect, harsh words, or dismissive behaviour in the early days. They were the ones who gently but firmly addressed it.

This is an important lesson for anyone getting married soon, or anyone in the early years of marriage:

Don’t allow bad habits to become normal.

If something is hurtful, speak about it early. If there is regular rudeness, don’t just brush it aside. Communicate clearly that kindness, respect, patience, and good character are not optional extras in marriage. They are part of the foundation.

A strong marriage is not built by tolerating everything silently. It is built by two people who are willing to correct themselves, listen to each other, and protect the relationship from harmful patterns before they become deeply rooted.

So have high standards, not unrealistic standards of perfection, but Islamic standards of mercy, respect, good manners, and emotional safety.

I was chatting with a woman who, by the way, in her profile listed that relocation is a possibility, and happen to live in Louisiana. When she told me the expectation is I was to move there, I couldn’t stop from laughing. Like why in the hell would anyone wanna live there, let alone move there? 

Clear intentions only. Building a future, not just a vibe.

Nikah is not just love, it is responsibility, trust, and deen.”🤲
The best marriage is where both help each other get closer to Jannah.♥️

Low energy 🪫