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👤 The Marriage Checklist: Non-Negotiables vs. Deal Breakers
Salaam people! 👋Before getting into any form of relationship, it is a massive deal to ask people what their core standards are.
Trust me, this doesn't just apply to romantic relationships—it applies to every deep connection in your life. But do we actually know the difference between a "Non-Negotiable" and a "Deal Breaker"? Let's break it down:
🧩 1. The Non-Negotiables (Your "Must-Haves")Non-negotiables are the fundamental qualities a person must possess for you to feel happy, secure, and fulfilled. If these are missing, you will eventually feel empty.My Personal Non-Negotiable is Growth: The moment I notice you aren’t actively trying to grow—spiritually, financially, mentally, or emotionally—it naturally turns me off. It doesn't matter what kind of relationship we share; seeing someone choose to remain completely stagnant for too long is something I cannot accept.
🛑 2. The Deal Breakers (Your "Must-NOT-Haves")Deal breakers are the behaviors or red flags that you absolutely will not tolerate. The moment someone crosses this line, they are out of your life. Sometimes a deal breaker hits instantly; other times, it's a boundary that hardens over time through constant repetition.My Personal Deal Breaker is Dishonesty: At first, if you hide something, we can talk about it. I can try to understand if you were just trying to protect your privacy or keep the peace. But the moment dishonesty becomes a consistent pattern? Abeg, I am off!
Knowing these boundaries upfront saves you from a lifetime of resentment.
You owe it to yourself and to your future spouse to be crystal clear about them from day one.
💬 Over to you: What is one absolute non-negotiable and one major deal breaker for you when looking for a spouse? Let’s talk in the comments below! 👇😌

Imagine not being open to consider someone from particular group of people i.e someone from a different ethnicity, different country, different marital status, has a child/children etc....all because there is a stigma on social media about them, you've "heard horror stories" or you're worried what mummy and daddy are going to say 🤣

I think we should all be open minded if we are serious about getting married and if it's possible to make things work then we should definitely try. Finding a spouse is not meant to be easy, they are not going to fall on your lap, you will be tested even from the very start. Too many snowflakes give up right at the start, trust me when I say, if you can hack things at the start wait until you get married! 😉

I had this mindset when I first joined because being a divorcee with a child is so hard for some people to digest especially those that had not been married before, it put me off so I stopped searching for the "never married" type because they didn't understand the dynamics and saw me being divorced as bad news.

It's Friday....Let's all give our heads a wobble and do better Insha'Allah 🫶🏽

Are people supposed to get married because they check all the boxes? Like she’s a good, well-raised woman, he’s financially stable, can provide, they’re both decent people… so that’s it? Is marriage basically a business deal where you sign the contract, populate the Earth, and call it a day?
Or are you actually supposed to feel something first?
And if the answer is “you should feel something,” then when do you take things seriously? Only after feelings show up?
Or is it just that once we find someone who fits the kind of life we imagine, we simply convince ourselves that’s enough?
I’m genuinely asking. Forget personal preferences for a second. What is actually the right answer?

This app supposely for serious people who wants to find a potential spouse. However, there are men luring around finding women to make his victim (touch and go). Even this app becoming not reliable, safe and trusted because of these men. If you are afraid of Allah, you will not make a move to touch a woman, you will admit your mistake and apologies, you will take responsibility. The fact is, if you really are afraid of God, you will not lie, use, and manipulate a woman in the first place.

For those who read this, don't entirely blame the women who became the victims of lustful men. A predator with corrupted heart and mind is the main issue here.

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So let me get this straight…
Some people joined a marriage app, they are afraid of commitment, they have trust issues, they are scared to get close to people, but they still started the conversation, kept it going, and opened up about themselves.
I’m just trying to understand the objective here. If you’re not ready to trust anyone or build a connection, then what exactly did you come here for?
It feels like signing up for a swimming competition and then saying you’re afraid of water.

Ahhh ! This app is disappointing…
Deleting this !

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