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Salam,

I need advice.

I unfortunately fumbled someone who I thought would be a perfect match, completely on accident.

The conversation started off great, but I pivoted to sharing too much (info dumping if you will) and asking too many questions. Essentially, I didn’t match her texting vibe, didn’t give her enough space to respond, struggled to convey my personality through text, and ended up making the conversation overwhelming for her.

She shared a sentiment saying that balancing her life responsibilities with talking to people on here is draining and unmatched. It’s not hard to assume from there.

This is my short coming and I am not faulting her at all. I am just incredibly heartbroken (and a bit 🤒 after breaking down) and only blame myself.

The advice I’d like is, how do you approach a match?

I had a feeling I should have asked to voice call with her, as it is so much easier to convey my personality through speaking. Is there a specific time to do so after chatting (Few days, weeks, etc.) or whenever most comfortable?

And a part I really struggle with is how do you move on from surface level topics to asking questions about boundaries (communication frequency), then organically bring up timelines and the more serious topics?

I’ve set my timeline of chatting for 3-4 months the agree together for the rest. Hers was chatting 1-2 years, agree together involve parents and marriage 3-4 years. Are these typically set in stone timelines?

I don’t want to rush. I want to get to know the person, before I commit. It just feels that I don’t have the learned skills to have a proper conversation and my most recent experience is eating me from the inside out.

I appreciate any and all advice.

Jazakallah khairun.

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Men and women, how important is it for you that your potential partner doesn't get involved in haram practices, no matter how small or big.
For eg: Your potential proposal is interested/planning for taking loan with interest for buying house which might also be your potential home.
Today so many haram practice are so common that one might come to think of it as halal.
How do you think one should deal with the proposal without seeming to come off as rude/extremely conservative with Islamic thinking while it is very basic and simply stated by Allah SWT to avoid getting involved in riba.

There is a time for everything" is a famous proverb derived from the Book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible, which emphasizes that life operates in natural seasons and rhythms. You cannot do all things at once; rather, specific actions, emotions, and endeavors have their own appointed moments.🏔️

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The world tells you: “Fix yourself first, then come to Allah.”

Islam teaches: “Come to Allah, and He will guide you to become better.”

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