The 50+

💍 10 ESSENTIAL CONVERSATIONS BEFORE NIKAH — Short & Key Points

1. Compatibility — Beyond looks: values, personality, lifestyle, emotional needs
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2. Shared Vision — What is our future? Are we heading the same way?
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3. Conflict Style — How do we fight? Do we listen, apologize, walk away?
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4. Deen at Home — Salah, Qur'an, raising kids, encouraging each other's iman
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5. Expectations — Clear rights & duties; don't assume — communicate
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6. Finances — Income, savings, debt, spending, responsibilities
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7. Children — If, when, how many, how to raise them
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8. Intimacy — Mutual respect, comfort, needs, boundaries
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9. Family & Boundaries — In-laws, privacy, visits, involvement
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10. Non-Negotiables — Friends, social media, opposite-gender interactions, personal time

🤲 The wedding lasts a day — the marriage lasts a lifetime. Prepare for the marriage, not just the wedding. Choose deen, character, and compatibility. Pray Istikhara, communicate, and trust Allah.
"And He placed between you affection and mercy." — Qur'an 30:21

AMEEN. 🤍

When Love Turns Into Micromanagement

There is a difference between a wife expressing her needs and one partner attempting to control every aspect of the other’s life. Micromanagement can appear as monitoring conversations, controlling friendships, questioning movements, managing finances, demanding constant explanations, or becoming angry when things are not done exactly as expected. When one spouse feels they must constantly ask permission or carefully choose their words to avoid conflict, the relationship can become emotionally suffocating.

Hi

At which stage should Mahr be spoken about /decided?
And should it be less at our age?

I think I'm going to buy me a house like in the country away from the city somewhere that way I can plant my flowers and have me a little garden give me some chickens 😂

Disasters strike one after another across the globe — Nepal, and now Indonesia. Yet people seem to treat them as if they are nothing; as if these are not signs of Allah’s warning and displeasure. It feels as though divine recompense now moves as fast as time itself — no longer slow or delayed as it once seemed. What we do now returns to us swiftly. Many remain caught up in the daily rush of life — working, striving, busy with the world — yet so few feel true fear or reflection at what is happening. May Allah guide us all, and may we turn back to His laws and His way before we leave this world. Before it is too late. 🤲🏼

You're in your 20s or 30s in this group.... I think I may speak for everybody over 50
WE DON'T WANT YALL‼️‼️
NO YOU CANNOT GET TO KNOW US ‼️
WE NOT INTERESTED ‼️

I love talking to like-minded people my age 💕

2027
STOP APOLOGIZING BECAUSE THEY GO DO IT AGAIN

Fun fact about US 50 plus year old people...
WE NOT HAVING NO MORE KIDS 😂
WE have raised our kids and we're done!!
We are enjoying life!!!
We traveling the world and enjoying ourselves!! 😁
We spending time with our grandchildren and then sending them back home to their parents!!!

I seen some say when you're like 50 years old or older you're undesirable but these same people are always in our inbox trying to get to know us 😂 😂
I look good and feel good for me I LOVE my life for me
NOT nobody else so with that being
LOVE YOURSELF DON'T LET THESE YOUNGSTERS ON THIS APP DISCOURAGING YOU FROM FINDING YOUR MATE