Psychology & Neurodiversity

795 reactions · 30 shares | Shame spirals. Non-negotiable, no bueno. I will miss messages, forget to reply, say the wrong thing when I do. The second I can say “oh well, I forgive myself” is the second I get all my energy back. Getting overly excited about wins. The yin to the last yang. One burst of excitement drains my already-low reserves. Celebrate, yes, but I just write the win down and read them all at the end of the day. Keeps the momentum without the crash. Unique food choices. I eat the same style every day. Grill a protein for the week, pick a carb, pick a sauce. Swap it weekly instead of daily and you’d be shocked how un-boring it stays. Unique clothes. My closet is white, black, and beige. My brain isn’t good at what seems simple for everyone else, so the physical guardrails let me change it up without going full Steve Jobs uniform. Morning sunlight. I can’t overstate this. Your body needs it more than ever. Long to-do lists. The most effective system I’ve found is an if-then list, and I put the single task in the physical spot of the cue. Gym shoes on the passenger seat. A box by the door for what I need to grab. Starting to-dos, not finishing to-dos. You don’t write “go to the gym,” you write “put on gym clothes.” That’s the level of simplicity that kickstarts momentum. If it’s an email, I pre-type the first line. Save this if your brain works like mine | Darian Williams

183K views · 7.9K reactions | Home 🪽 Narrated by TheFallenPoet. My house won't have shouting, slamming doors, or someone lying awake waiting for the next argument. It won't have fear living in the walls or anger sitting at the table. Some of us didn't grow up in a home — we grew up in a storm. And we made a quiet promise to ourselves that it would end with us. My house will feel safe. My house will be a home. 📕 By the way, I did write a poetry book called Between Heaven & Earth. It's a collection of poems about love, heartbreak, loneliness, inner struggles, healing, and the quiet journey of understanding yourself and life along the way. If you'd like to read it, comment "Book" and I'll send you the link. #poetry #healing #childhoodtrauma #breakingcycles #home | Zen Neor

1.1K reactions · 186 shares | 🌱 I loved so deep, with childlike wonder. The world punished me for it. So I learned the lesson it was teaching me. Love safer. Protect yourself at all cost. 🎨 That punishment hardened me. I stopped flowing with life. Started bracing for impact before impact ever came. I brace so hard that I brace against the good things too. I didn’t just block the pain. I blocked the love that was already standing right in front of me. 🔥 I was called weird. Even though I never thought I was. But hearing it enough times meant I had to calibrate. So I tried becoming smaller. Easier to love. Shying away from my true identity just to be tolerated. Turns out weird was never the problem. Inauthenticity was. 💚 My love is the same as my hyperfixations. All or nothing. It overwhelms people or it disappears completely. Nothing in between. Nothing they can feel. Either way they walk away thinking I never loved them at all. I loved them the hardest in the moments they couldn’t see it. 🗣️ I performed love instead of speaking it. Said what they needed to hear, further diluting who I was. The moment I stopped, I finally met a stranger. That stranger was me. The inner child that just wanted belonging. 👁️ We are the observers and curators of our own stories. The story I told myself was one of danger. Control. Vigilance. Not because it was true, but because it kept me safe. That was the illusion. Blinding me from the beauty and love that’s in front of me. 🌌 The world I see is me. I pushed the world away as separation feels safer because it gives distance. But there was never real separation. We don’t need understanding from the world. We only need to understand it. The world I see is my own subconscious. A mirror. To welcome love from it, I had to love myself within. And once I did, that became a light other people could finally see. If this sounds like you, please like and share and follow and help me, spread light. Remember, you are unlimited. Peace and Love ✌️❤️ #neurodivergent #adhdproblems #masking #autismlove #relatable | Lester’s ADHD Lab

788K views · 28K reactions | You really CAN change him! #money #finance #dating #goals #relationships | Your Rich BFF