Psychology & Neurodiversity

Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.

Being handsome as a man may ease your partner search.
Being tall as a man may ease your partner search.
Being smart as a man may ease your partner search.
Being funny as a man may ease your partner search.
Being charismatic as a man may ease your partner search.
Being all 5 may make you an ignorant arrogant son of a woman.

A lot of behavioral scientists(I can drop some names, but you will use ChatGPT either way to verfiy this!), agree on the idea that our brain "creats" reality(construct our own perspective), and its dangerous that we may look at something as reality when in fact its just our own perspective,
Our perspective is shaped by our abilities and "NEEDS", so someone who is always scared of rejection may have that lens on everything and his vision is narrow to looking at things in terms of approved and rejected, making any type of validation "fact"

Hey there!

What do you really consider using and why?

Brain 🧠 over heart❤️
Heart ❤️over brain 🧠

Who can honestly say they're happy with their life?

Never eveeeeer stop talking to God about your business, life, health, goals.

do you remember the last time of giving flowers who loves in your life !? I think people are like a breeze, they come and go quickly. It's a pity that the moment ended without saying "I love you" to those we loved and who loved us.

Man and woman interested in eachother.
They have been messing around (getting cosy)
She wants it to stop, she offers a halal solution.

Her: you cover my room (not the whole house)
Cover utilities and food. Not even an allowance.
(She thinks he doesn’t have much money and trying to make it easy for a halal thing to happen)

Him: I need to check my budget.
Because I have to make sure I will be able to afford (the second marriage I’m planning for in about a year. He hasn’t met or spoken to any “second marriage” prospect as yet.
Something in the future.
Also the man:

Man: Do u want children, I’m happy with whatever Allh gives me. But he’s very adamant to get a clearer answer.
He says he didn’t want any children.

A few weeks pass

Man: I changed my mind, I do want children.
But not from you because we are different cultures, my tribe would not allow it.
I don’t want my child to have a had time , to be left out etc due to culture difference.

His plan:I will marry you first.
Then I will find someone from my tribe (his mum doing that already)
When I meet the potential wife I will tell her about you, if she don’t accept I will not marry her. I will find another.
I will not tell my mother that I married you at first, I will do that when she’s “ready”.

Her: is it just that u marry one to have children and not me? Also If you have to stay more with her bcos of helping children or hospital etc etc
Will that be fair on me?

He after sometime says your right, it’s not fair on you and stalls.
I find this story absurd.
What do you all think ?

It feels like everyone wants to be alone these days, and socializing is often seen as a waste of time. We’re becoming more connected through technology, yet more disconnected as human beings. Have we lost our humanity? Is this really what we were born for?💔💔💔

Many men write in their profiles that they are looking for a righteous wife with good character. But when they ask for a photo and see someone’s face, their actions often don’t reflect what they wrote.

As for me, I always try to accept things with an open heart. From the beginning, I tell people that if they are not attracted to my appearance, that’s their right, and I respect it. I only hope they don’t reject me because of my religion or my commitment to practicing Islam, because that is something I strive to hold onto sincerely.

Is there anyone here who is genuine? Someone who is truly honest and doesn’t take the beginning of a relationship lightly?

As the saying goes, you will always be beautiful in the eyes of the right person.