Psychology & Neurodiversity

The Reward For Doing Good
And Being A Good Person
Is Loneliness

How did the people of the past socialise?
I can’t be the only one who feels like technology doesn’t cut it for connection / socialisation?
I feel like there’s a loneliness plague nowadays. People want connection, yet fear the people they want connection with. It’s become so normalised to be alone. Theres a hidden agenda there 💯 %
It isn’t normal / right to be alone and to want to be alone.
OK from time to time ETC is OK.
But everyday, day in / day out.
NO. I refuse. This is not normal. It’s not right. We were created as social beings w touch, eye contact etc not through darn screen.
They messed that up too. We can’t let this be the norm. We need to push back.
It’s not wonder why people are socially awkward and some so self centred, people lost real human interaction without the screen.
I wana have people around me, living with me.
We are in weird times. If we just stop n realize what the he* is going on here. If we just stop the distraction long enough to realize that sh* has indeed hit the fan.

There are whole books on psychology that don't get anywhere near this paragraph from Dostoevsky

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When allah stands beside us, even storms bow in silence.

Anyone here has OCD? Did you tell anyone or were you afraid of social stigma ? How did your friends / family / partner / ex partner react to it? How are you dealing with it at the moment ? In my case I have obsessive thoughts and rituals but fortunately medication was effective and got them suppressed. Recently (January 2026) I returned to medication again but I spent the last five years without them and inshallah I will wean off the med (with supervision) soon.

The Things We Pretend Not to Need
Have you ever noticed...
The words we remember most are rarely the longest.
Sometimes they are just,
"I thought of you."
"Take your time."
"I am glad you are here."
It's true, isn't it?
We spend years convincing ourselves that we do not need encouragement.
Then someone offers a few sincere words...
and suddenly the day feels lighter.
Lately, I have been wondering...
Perhaps strength is not pretending we need no one.
Perhaps strength is knowing that Allah created us with hearts that can be lifted by kindness.
We praise grand gestures.
Yet it is often the smallest ones that stay.
A gentle word.
A patient ear.
A prayer made in someone's absence.
Maybe we pretend not to need them...
because admitting we do feels like weakness.
When, perhaps, it is simply part of being human.

this is your reminder...try to get into a nice meaningful conversation this weekend that's you've might've otherwise not have had

From Synapse: Subjects rated their own personality twice, 3 weeks apart, on the Big Five Inventory (John & Srivastava, 1999; as ≥ .92), and informants rated
subjects' personality on the same inven-tory.

To obtain a multimethod measure of personality, we then averaged self-reports and informant reports.

Results were consistent with prior research (Diener & Seli an. 2002) in that higher well-being was associated with spending less time alone, r=-.35, and more time talking to others, r= .31.

This is because Allah never changes a favour which He has conferred upon a people until they change their own condition — and because Allah is Hearing, Knowing —Holy Quran 8:53 📖📿🤲🏾☕️

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