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Need a safe space to discuss your mental health? Please always remember to SEEK HELP when things get bad 💛 Never suffer alone 🤝

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Ayatuollah

@ayaramzy

12 days ago

16K views · 587 reactions | LOVE vs. ADAPTATION TO FEAR Codependency and enmeshment are often confused, but there are significant differences between these concepts. ❤️‍🩹Enmeshment “I love you because I need you.” It is an adaptation to the fear of abandonment through suppressing one’s own needs and denying oneself by mirroring the partner. It is the loss of individuality as a way to stay connected. ❤️‍🩹Codependency “I love you because you need me.” It is an adaptation to the fear of abandonment through complete immersion in the life of a troubled partner. A sense of importance and irreplaceability is maintained through control, resulting in losing oneself for the sake of the other person. ❤️‍🩹Counter-dependency “I do not need you.” It is an adaptation to the fear of abandonment through avoiding the recognition of one’s need for relationships and emotional closeness. ❤️Healthy emotional attachment “I need you because I love you.” There is no confusion between aloneness and being unwanted or abandoned. There is no fear of separateness from the other person. There is the capacity to stay in contact with oneself and to tolerate the feelings that significant others in the past could not handle. 🔷Behind the fear of abandonment often lies the absence of a developed skill of self-regulation. #traumabond #traumabonding #avoidant #avoidantattachment #relationshiptips | Irina Yusupova

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Amee

@xaa1234

12 days ago

Live to please Allah, not people. Their approval is temporary; His pleasure is the ultimate success.

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Amee

@xaa1234

12 days ago

If Allah is with you, no one can overcome you. — Qur’an 3:160

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Amee

@xaa1234

12 days ago

Speak kindly. In Islam, even your words are an act of accountability. Be gentle with people’s hearts, for Allah knows what you say and how your words affect others

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Sadia Neetu

@Camila10407733

12 days ago

The way we see ourselves and the way we see others are often two different realities. If our perceptions were always true, we would never have a reason to regret anything !!!!

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Anonymous

12 days ago

Any other men who are unable to have children struggling to find someone? It’s like as soon as that is mentioned, I’m turned down. I just want to be honest upfront.

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Mostafa

@M0sta

13 days ago

stop sharing your personal life with people who gossip. stop explaining yourself to those committed to misunderstanding you. stop giving endless chances to people who keep disrespecting you. stop allowing everyone access to your time, energy and peace. some things are better protected than explained. keep your circle small and your life private.

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Someya

@Someyaa

13 days ago

I find myself drawn to this surah in times of doubt and worry. Very powerful if read with focus, passion and strength, even when you feel weak....

Please share with anyone who is struggling with their psychological state.

Arabic:

• Allahumma inni a'udhu bika minal-hammi wal-hazan, wal-'ajzi wal-kasal, wal-jubni wal-bukhl, wa dhala'id-dayni wa ghalabatir-rijal.

• English Translation:

"O Allah, I seek refuge in You from worry and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being heavily in debt, and from being overpowered by [other] men" (Sahih al-Bukhari).

• Why it helps with overthinking:

The Arabic word hamm (هَمّ) refers to anxious anticipation and worry about the future, while hazan (حَزَن) refers to grief or sadness over the past. This dua directly addresses a racing mind trapped in loops of 'what-ifs'.

If I'm able to help just one person who is struggling this evening, then I will find peace in knowing I was able to help another soul who's potentially been forgotten about.

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Hossain

@hossainhossain

13 days ago

Let’s know each other and connect the souls.
Inbox me for a meaningful conversation leading to marriage 🤍

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