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Down with flu ... 🤧 my bed ,a good meal and some love story will be great ..
I am still learning on how to define a compatible partner until now. I thought I already knew it after the divorce and a failed marriage. Anyone wants to share your definition of compatible?
No car,no bike,no transport
no problem.
public rides+chats+Laugh+stories
simple,sweet,perfect😍
Love It!
May i know, how to do the co-parenting in a correct way?.
Kindly share with me
Im a single mom, with 9 year daughter.
Thanks
Disconnection from Allah and the Lower Egoic Self
In Islamic understanding, when a person becomes distant from fitrah, they don’t lose their original nature, but it can become covered or weakened. This disconnection is often described as the heart becoming less responsive to remembrance of Allah and more influenced by the lower self.
- The pull of the lower self (nafs)
Islam describes the human self (nafs) as having different states. When a person is disconnected from Allah, they tend to become dominated by the lower tendencies of the nafs—impulses, desires, ego, and immediate gratification.
In this state, decisions are often driven by
desire for control or validation
attachment to pleasure without limits
reactivity (anger, pride, jealousy)
self-centered thinking
Instead of being guided by higher meaning, the person becomes more reactive to what feels good or protects the ego in the moment.
- Ego and spiritual distance
When remembrance of Allah weakens, the ego tends to take a larger role. The ego is not just “confidence” in Islam—it is the self that can become inflated or defensive when not balanced by humility.
A disconnected heart may start to
justify harmful behaviour
resist accountability
seek superiority or dominance
avoid reflection or self-correction
This creates a cycle where the person becomes more attached to their own perspective, even when it is harmful.
- Loss of inner restraint
Connection with Allah brings taqwa (awareness of God), which acts as an inner restraint. Without it, a person may still know right from wrong intellectually, but the emotional and spiritual restraint weakens.
This can lead to
acting on impulse more easily
weak boundaries in relationships
reduced empathy or sensitivity to others’ pain
prioritising short-term desires over long-term consequences
- The heart becomes “hardened” over time
Islam describes that repeated neglect of remembrance and accountability can lead to a hardened heart. This does not mean someone is permanently lost, but it means they become less receptive to guidance, reflection, and guilt.
The person may
feel less remorse
become comfortable with patterns they once questioned
lose sensitivity to spiritual signals
- The illusion of satisfaction
A key part of egoic living is that it promises satisfaction but rarely delivers lasting peace. The more a person is driven by the lower self alone, the more they may experience
inner emptiness after temporary pleasure
restlessness despite external success
dependence on validation or stimulation
- Return is always possible
Even in Islamic teaching, this state is not final. Because fitrah is not destroyed, the door of return remains open. A person can reconnect through reflection, repentance, and rebuilding awareness of Allah.
The shift begins when the heart moves from
“What do I want right now?”
to
“What is true, meaningful, and pleasing to Allah?”
That transition gradually restores balance between the nafs and the higher spiritual self.
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