Muslims in Nigeria

Muzz should have edit option for messages sent 🤦🏾

There's a certain Abbas and Sodiq I keep seeing their comments around here.
They're red maps.

So, gurlies be wary of them.
You all deserve the best. Not crumbs🥱

Love is not an excuse to remain stagnant.

You can be loved for who you are today and still be expected to work towards becoming a better version of yourself tomorrow.

Drop the ego. Do the inner work. Learn to communicate. Take feedback without treating it as an attack. Heal where you need to heal. Develop the emotional maturity your relationships require.

Your childhood may not have been your fault, but taking responsibility for the person you become is part of your growth.

And to the men who are already doing this work, keep going. Growth is not weakness, and accountability does not diminish your masculinity.

Why do some men find it so difficult to work on themselves?

You know you can become a better partner. You know there are skills you can learn, habits you can change, and emotional wounds you can work through to build a healthier relationship. Yet, you choose not to.

You know you have unresolved trauma. You know your childhood may not have given you the right foundation, discipline, or emotional security. But what is wrong with making a conscious effort to change your narrative?

You want a woman to accept you exactly as you are, yet you are often unwilling to extend that same grace to a woman who doesn’t meet your expectations. You want her to be patient, supportive, understanding, and mature. But are you putting in the work to become the kind of man who can offer those same qualities?

Women are encouraged to be more patient, more emotionally intelligent, more accommodating, more understanding, and more intentional about our relationships. Many women take feedback, unlearn unhealthy patterns, develop new skills, and make conscious efforts to become better partners.

Men must be willing to do the same.

I am tired of the endless conversations that leads no where on this app so I’m simply going to state what I’m attracted to and if you fit in then let’s arrange a date as soon as possible…

1. I appreciate a man who takes care of himself: good hygiene, a pleasant fragrance, good sense of style, neat haircut, cared for skin and a generally clean, presentable appearance.

2. I am drawn to a man who carries himself confidently, has a noticeable presence and looks comfortable in his own skin. He already knows he is masculine and doesn’t have to announce it.

3. He should be well educated and speaks English fluently. He should be versed in many subjects and should be somebody I can learn from.

4. A man who understands his position as a man and is attentive to his woman’s needs( pls note that I am a very feminine woman so it’s important that a man meets me in his masculine provider energy)

5. He should be Gentle and Kind ( Speaks respectfully even when angry.
   Does not humiliate or belittle.
   Does not punish others for having opinions.
   He is considerate of others feelings.
   He can disagree without becoming cruel.

6. He should have a responsible approach to obligations.
   The ability to provide for himself.
   A generous attitude towards his partner.
   A constructive attitude towards wealth creation and long term security.

7. He should express love in ways I can recognise: through affection, attentiveness, thoughtful gestures, time, words and consistent action.

8. He should be a man of substance. Whether it’s his integrity, competence, ambition, emotional maturity, wisdom, discipline, generosity or the way he handles responsibility.

9. A man who will not make me feel smaller so he can be bigger. He should be able to support my growth and celebrate my accomplishments without competition and intimidation.

10. And saving the best for the last, he must not only fear Allah but the teachings of Islam should live inside him and they should guide his decisions. He must not be a man who only picks out religious beliefs that favors him as a man but he must have empathy for women and other people.

Assalamu alaykum. I want to share a little about me. I have run a business for 16 years. There were good years. There were also years I lost almost everything.

I am rebuilding now. I live in Oyo Town, I work a job, and I am growing my business toward Lagos. It is not easy, but my faith keeps me steady. I believe Allah rewards honest effort.

What helps you stay strong when life is hard?

If only guys knew that girls don’t hate them. All we want is to be seen as human beings and to feel safe. And most importantly, STOP TELLING THEM WHAT TO DO!😩😂

As salaam alaikum waramotu lahi jamah musumi

Please is there Sunni Masha Allah sister staying in Lagos mainland here

As a student, you have no business being on this app. It a matchmaking app for people who are looking for their better half to complete their deen within a short period of time.

Why should a student be looking for a relationships?

I want to believe everyone one of us on this app are single right?