Divorced Muslims
1,950,774 members
Share your experiences, find support, and seek guidance. Connect, heal, and find strength in the company of those who understand our journey.
𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒖𝒔 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒔...
𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒐𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒅𝒐 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒔, 𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒕𝒉!
𝑩𝒚 𝑯𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒃
Good morning Malaysia have nice day MuZz friends God bless you all my friend❤️
I need gf
Why the World Feels Overwhelmed by Darkness — An Islamic Reflection
In Islamic thought, the spread of greed, lust, and self-worship is seen as a sign of hearts becoming disconnected from divine guidance. The Quran describes this inner shift as the root of corruption on earth.
“Corruption has appeared on land and sea because of what the hands of people have earned…” (30:41)
From this perspective, “darkness” is not just external chaos but a loss of moral balance within the human heart. When desire becomes the center of life—wealth, pleasure, and ego replacing restraint and accountability—society begins to drift away from justice and compassion.
The Qur’an also warns against following unchecked desires:
“Have you seen the one who takes his own desire as his god?” (45:23)
In Islamic understanding, this “worship of the self” happens when personal desire overrides truth and moral responsibility. Over time, this leads to ظلم (injustice), exploitation, and spiritual emptiness.
Yet the message is not hopeless. The Qur’an consistently calls people back to reflection, balance, and self-purification, reminding that darkness is not permanent when hearts return to guidance.
Ultimately, the “darkness” described in Islamic thought is not the absence of knowledge, but the absence of direction.
What's wrong with a man choosing to remarry 10+ years after his divorce?
Doesn't that simply mean he took the time he needed to heal move on from the trauma of his previous marriage and make sure he was truly ready mentally and emotionally for another commitment?
I'd rather enter a new marriage when I'm certain I won't be carrying unresolved issues bitterness or drama from my past into my future wife's life. To me that's being responsible not problematic.
I've spoken to divorced women who openly admit they still struggle to trust men because of what happened in their previous marriages. That clearly shows they're still carrying emotional wounds from the past. Healing takes time and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you're not emotionally ready for a new relationship don't give someone false hope while you figure things out. Everyone's time is valuable.
What confuses me even more is when someone presents themselves as deeply religious pious and fully moved on yet tells a potential spouse that they still miss their ex husband even after describing how poorly they were treated during that marriage and insisting they were never truly in love with him in the first place.
If you still miss your ex then be honest with yourself and with the people you're speaking to. There is no shame in needing more time to heal. The shame is in claiming you're ready for marriage while emotionally remaining attached to someone from your past and dragging another person into that situation.
And from my personal experience the situation has often been even worse with some women who have been divorced multiple times. Not because divorce itself makes someone a bad person but because many seem unwilling to acknowledge their own role in failed relationships while carrying unresolved baggage from one marriage into the next.
At some point if every ex was supposedly toxic every marriage was entirely the other person's fault and yet the same patterns keep repeating it's fair to ask whether any self reflection has taken place at all. Personal accountability cannot always be a one way street.
It's not my fault what happened in your previous marriage just as it's not your fault what happened in mine. If you're unsure whether you're ready to trust again or unsure about me specifically that's your right but please don't waste my time. I didn't create your trauma and I shouldn't be expected to pay the price for someone else's mistakes.
Just because some women start looking for a new spouse immediately after completing their iddah doesn't mean men are obligated to follow the same timeline. Healing isn't a race and readiness can't be measured by a calendar.
I'd rather marry later for the right reasons than rush into it before I'm genuinely ready.