Muslims in the UK

So guess what guys. The most recent research, fresh off the press is that there is a possibility that females arent born with all the eggs they will ever have. They may make them during their lives. So there go all the theories of a woman having pregnancy/birth complications due to age of eggs.

Actually i,m lokking for soulmate with whom i can spend my last breath

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Any sisters in the UK aged 26–35 who are upon Salafiyyah, send me a message, leave a comment, or like this post.

People ask me all the time what is one of the biggest red flags when a man says he wants marriage

My answer stays the same

If a man refuses to speak to your wali from the beginning then that is one of the clearest red flags you will ever get

And before anyone gets emotional read properly

In Islam a sister can’t marry a sister it’s haram

There is a wali for a reason

This whole modern mindset of bypassing the wali, building private attachment first, talking for weeks or months, then maybe involving the wali later if things go well is not something I will ever respect

A man who is serious about marriage should not be scared of the wali
He should not be trying to avoid the wali
He should not be trying to delay the wali

If anything a man upon Islam should be happy to speak to the wali from the beginning because it shows he is serious, it shows he is clear, it shows he is not here to waste time and it shows he is not trying to get private access to a woman without responsibility

But what do a lot of brothers do instead

They will text you all day
Call you for hours
Build emotional attachment
Start acting comfortable
Start speaking about marriage
Start speaking about the future
Start speaking about deen
Start acting like they are serious

But the second you say speak to my wali everything changes

Now suddenly he is not ready
Now suddenly he wants to get to know you first
Now suddenly he says let’s not rush
Now suddenly he says we need to understand each other first before bringing family into it

That right there is the red flag

Because what he is really saying is I want access before responsibility
I want closeness before accountability
I want to see if I like you enough first before I do things properly
I want husband level attention without having to step up like a husband

Then when a sister stands on deen and says no if you are serious then speak to my wali first some of these brothers have the audacity to say you have a backwards mentality

Backwards mentality

So let me ask clearly

Are you saying Islam is backwards

Because the wali is part of Islam

This is the problem now
Some people want Islam when it suits them and want to call the rest backwards when it requires discipline, structure and accountability

They love talking about marriage
They love talking about sunnah
They love talking about being practising
But the moment the wali comes into the picture the excuses start pouring out

And I am sorry but I do not respect that

If a man is truly serious and truly fears Allah then speaking to the wali should not be a burden to him
It should not scare him
It should not offend him
It should not make him disappear

A serious man says give me the wali’s number
A serious man makes his intention clear
A serious man does not need weeks of secret conversations to decide whether he wants to do things the halal way
A serious man does not need to test drive a woman emotionally before deciding whether she is worth approaching properly

Too many sisters are being played by men who know exactly what to say
They know how to sound soft
They know how to sound practising
They know how to speak about marriage
They know how to speak about wanting something halal
But when it is time to prove that seriousness through action they vanish behind excuses

And this is exactly why I keep saying one of the biggest red flags is a man who refuses to speak to your wali from the start

Not after attachment
Not after months of talking
Not after you have already become emotionally invested
From the start

Because if he cannot do that then he is showing you that he does not want to enter through the door Islam gave him
He wants to climb through the window and still call himself serious

No thank you

If a brother cannot step up and speak to the wali then stop dressing him up as a serious man
He is not serious
He is not ready
And he is definitely not someone a sister should be building with

No wali
No structure
No seriousness
No future

Now I want to ask both brothers and sisters

Would you let someone get to know you first without speaking to your wali

Sisters have you ever had a brother disappear the moment you mentioned your wali

Brothers if you are serious about marriage what exactly is stopping you from speaking to the wali early

Do you think asking to speak to the wali from the beginning is too much or is it the bare minimum

Drop your thoughts below because I know this one will expose a lot of mindsets

Hi 💕

Asc oll muslims im happy to see my brothers and my sisters Allxmll

A genuine question because I keep seeing profiles saying separated and I think a lot of people are confused by what that actually means.

If a brother says he is separated, what does that mean in reality?

Is he still Islamically married but living apart from his wife
Is he in the middle of a divorce
Has the marriage ended Islamically but not legally
Or is he still married and now looking for another wife while the first situation is still ongoing

And for sisters, if a sister says she is separated, does that mean she is actually single Islamically and allowed to look for a husband

Because from an Islamic point of view, being separated and being free to remarry are not always the same thing.

If a woman is still Islamically married, then she is not single Islamically just because she is living separately.
If she has had a valid talaq or khula and completed what is required, then that is a different situation.
And if she is still in her iddah, then she cannot remarry yet.

Same with brothers.
If a man is still married and only separated, then that should be made clear properly because separated can mean many different things.

So my genuine question is this

When someone puts separated on a marriage profile, what does that actually mean

Are they still Islamically married
Are they legally still married
Have they had talaq or khula
Are they actually in a position to remarry right now

I’m asking because I think this should be made clear from the start, especially on Muslim marriage platforms, because marriage is too serious for vague labels.

"Everyone gets everything; only I keep looking up at the sky." 🌌😔

Hadith

'Abd Allah said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed the woman who adds some false hair and the woman who asks for it, the woman who tattoos and the woman who asks for it.

Sahih (Al-Albani)

Sunan Abi Dawud, 4168