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Children Are a Blessing, But Love Between Husband and Wife Must Never Fade ❤️

Marriage is a beautiful journey, and for many couples, having children is one of the most meaningful chapters of that journey.

Children bring a different kind of happiness into a home. Their laughter fills the house, their little questions create beautiful memories, and watching them grow can give parents a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment.

But there is something equally important that couples should never forget:

Before becoming parents, they were husband and wife.

And even after becoming parents, they still need to remain husband and wife.

Children Complete a Family, But They Shouldn't Replace the Relationship

For couples who choose to have children, raising them is a wonderful responsibility. Parents sacrifice their time, energy, comfort, and sometimes even their personal dreams to give their children a better life.

But while taking care of children, it is easy for a husband and wife to slowly become nothing more than "Mom" and "Dad."

Their conversations become only about school, homework, bills, meals, responsibilities, and the children's future.

Slowly, they may forget to ask each other:

"How are you feeling?"

"Did you have a good day?"

"Are you happy?"

"Do you need anything?"

These little questions may seem insignificant, but they are often what keeps emotional intimacy alive.

Children Need Loving Parents, Not Just Responsible Parents

A child needs food, education, protection, and opportunities—but they also benefit from growing up in an environment where their parents respect, appreciate, and care for each other.

When children see their parents laughing together, supporting each other, holding hands, apologizing after an argument, and enjoying each other's company, they learn something incredibly valuable about love and relationships.

They learn that marriage isn't just about responsibilities.

It is also about friendship, companionship, patience, affection, and respect.

Don't Put Your Marriage on Hold

Many couples say, "We'll spend time together when the children grow up."

But years pass quickly.

The children grow up, leave home, start their own careers, and eventually build families of their own.

And then the husband and wife may suddenly find themselves alone again—sometimes realizing that they have spent twenty or thirty years taking care of everyone except each other.

That's why love should not be postponed.

Have dinner together.

Go for a walk.

Take a small trip when you can.

Watch a movie together.

Laugh about silly things.

Compliment each other.

Hold hands.

And sometimes, simply sit together without talking about responsibilities.

Love Doesn't Have to Be Grand

After children, romance may look different.

It may not be expensive dinners or long romantic nights.

It may be a husband bringing his wife her favorite tea while the children are busy.

It may be a wife saving her husband's favorite piece of dessert.

It may be a quick hug in the kitchen.

It may be sending a simple message during a busy day saying, "Thinking about you."

These small gestures remind both partners:

"You are still important to me."

And Yes, Little Arguments Are Normal 😊

A loving marriage doesn't mean there will never be disagreements.

There will be arguments.

Sometimes over serious things, and sometimes over something so silly that both of you will laugh about it later.

The goal isn't to have a marriage without arguments.

The goal is to have arguments without losing respect.

You can disagree and still love each other.

You can be angry and still care.

You can need some space and still know that you belong together.

And sometimes, after a little argument, one person simply says, "Okay, enough. Come, let's have tea." 😄❤️

That's marriage too.

Children Grow Up, But Your Partner Remains

One day, the children who once needed you for everything will become independent.

They will have their own homes, careers, partners, and lives.

And when that day comes, the person sitting beside you will be the same person with whom you started this journey.

So yes, children can be one of life's greatest blessings for couples who want them.

But while raising them, never forget to raise your own relationship too.

Because children eventually grow up and leave the nest.

But a husband and wife should still have each other.

Take care of your children.

Give them love.

Build their future.

But don't forget the person with whom you created that family.

Keep talking.

Keep laughing.

Keep teasing each other.

Keep forgiving.

Keep dating each other.

Keep holding hands.

And most importantly, keep choosing each other.

Because the most beautiful family isn't simply one where children are loved.

It is one where children grow up watching two people who, despite all the responsibilities and challenges of life, never stopped loving each other. ❤️

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A question for the CEO of Jamaa.

      _What is the vision for Jamaa?_

Is Jamaa intended exclusively for people who are single, or is it a community that continues to have value as people move into relationships and different stages of life?

I ask because I keep hearing the view that once someone is no longer single, they should no longer be on Jamaa. Although I have never seen that raised towards married sisters who post.

It would be helpful to clarify this so the community thrives.

Could the CEO perhaps do a video explaining:

• What inspired the creation of Jamaa?

• What is the vision and purpose of the platform?

• Who is Jamaa ultimately designed to serve?

• How do you envision people using Jamaa as their lives and relationships evolve?

I think having clarity directly from the CEO would help the community understand what Jamaa is really about and what role it is intended to play in our lives.

Could people tag any others in his C suite/ board or Product owners?

Thank you for your attention in this matter 😀

I think a great way to assess compatibility is with a grocery shop! You can learn so much about eachother!

• -do they know how to buy a weeks worth of groceries?
• -are they frugally checking offers and cost per gram or do they prefer to buy what they like regardless of cost?
• -are they disciplined, or do they go all out?
  -what’s in their diet, healthy, or salty and sweet treats?
  -Will you have conflict over branding preferences, and do they boycott?
• -How are they in that environment, anxious? Chatty? Helpful? Determined to be in and out quickly? Do they sing along to the music?!
  -What’s it like at paying time; chatty and carefree while packing things in orderly fashion, or chaotic nervousness and worrying about the cost?

I’m sure there’s more, but now I’m just eager to have a first date whilst doing a weekly shop! 

Chai Thought of The Day… (CTOTD)

Is Islamic banking actually Islamic in nature if its very modern foundation is build on the shoulders of the conventional banking system?
(Bank of England / Fed Reserve Interest rate pegging and all that)
Is the synonymous service fee actually an interest rate wearing a thobe?

Hmm… ☕️

Asked a woman if all her photos are taken with filters and she got angry and started insulting me. Most women here use filters so their skin looks better and their face looks round or changed in any other way. When we meet, you’re not the person I imagined and that’s off putting. Don’t get angry with me because you are deceitful. Does anyone else agree? I’ve been told men do this too and it’s a sad thing to do.

Gold is tested by fire, but character is tested when the whole plan falls apart on a random weekday."
We put so much pressure on ourselves to have a polished life, a pristine record, and every piece of the puzzle fitting neatly. The truth? None of us have it entirely figured out. We’re all just winging it with varying levels of confidence and strong caffeine.
Don't measure your worth by how smooth the ride has been, but by how well you drive when life hands you a flat tire. Respect your own journey, give yourself some grace, and let the plot twists build a bit of wisdom in you instead of worry.