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This is a more serious topic than some of my recent posts, but an important one nonetheless and something to bring up during conversations. This is concerning confidentiality of relationships and balancing conflicts of interest.

They say there are no secrets in a marriage. I would disagree personally, as Islamically others have rights over us when confiding in privileged and confidential information. Whether it be family or friends. These discussions ought not be shared with anyone.

How do you / will you handle a conflict here where a friend, sibling, parent etc confided something sensitive that they explicitly requested not be shared. Is it your expectation that your spouse share all details (including sensitive discussion) with you?

I find it uncomfortable when people speak on my behalf. If you’re defending my name/honor that’s different, may Allah bless you. Anything and everything else? Leave it to me bruvv.

What would you suggest me?

Today is National Single Day, so wishing you a happy National Singles Day 🥲🤣

Hi

Salaam, I am back after 24hours, how is everyone?

SALAM AND HAPPY MONDAY.
So let's talk preferences, shall we?
-When you pushing 50 and looks for a 25 yo, that's not preference, that's being a perv.
-When ur overweight and never go to gum, but you want the most beautiful person you see, that's not preference, that's incompatibility.
-When you've been with many women, and u look for a virgin, that's not preference, that's pervert shait.
When you're 45 divorced with 4 kids, going for a woman under 30 who's never been married, that's not preference. That's imbalance and selfishness.
-When you're 21 and looking for a man over 40, you're looking for a father figure not a husband. High chance of abuse and control.

• -When you're poor and looking for a rich woman, that's not preference, it's greed and loser behavior.
  -When you're 5'2", and you looking for a guy over 6', that's not preference, that's being unrealistic cuz there aren't many tall guys.
  -When you're in your 20s and looking for a guy in his 20s who makes 6 figs, that's not preference. That's complete ignorance.
• -When you are in 20s and looking for a woman in her 40s, that's not preference. That's looking for a mother or sugar mama, not a wife...very creepy.
  -When you're a rich dude and also want a rich woman, that's not preference. It's a marriage based on math equations.
• -When you're highly educated, and you want uneducated woman, that's not preference, that's just so sad. You need to go back to school.
• -When you're dumb, and looking for a smart woman, that's not preference, that's a recipe for disaster.
  Preference is when you want a woman to start or work from home. When you prefer someone from a different background, when you rather marry a woman from underprivileged family, when you want 4 kids vs 2 kids, when you want man/woman who speak arabic etc. Preferences make sense. When you require something you don't deserve, it's not preference, it's insanity and oppression.
  Hope it's clear now....🩷

I think male best friends are better than female best friends. Do you agree?

Assalamualaikum
Good night with sweet dreams and with my best wishes ❤️

Yuo rea ueabutiluf.