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If a lady asks me do I have a job ?
And I answer no I don’t do a job and get a block after that instead of me explaining everything to her that I don’t need a job I had enough of a job I’m 45 I worked most of my life.. I’m a property investor so don’t really need to do anything any issues with the tenants or paperwork family do that for me I just let my bank account grow and I just chill.. looking mum at home, sometimes on a holiday for a month, restaurants every weekend so looking for a wife who can hang out with me
So do need a job for a wife ?
You can look pretty on the outside but you cant be beautiful if your heart is ugly!
Ladies, what are your mehr requirements?
Men, what’s the most you’d be willing to give?
Mine is 100k
How do you feel about non practicing Muslims? Be honest because I’ve been mocked for it
Stop Rehearsing Marriage
For the sisters complaining about being ghosted, having their time wasted, or struggling to find serious men, perhaps it’s time for some honest reflection. If you’re expecting wife privileges before having a nikah, don’t be surprised when things don’t end well.
A God-fearing man isn’t going to invite you on “<CUSTOM_BOLD>halal dates,” pick you up alone in his car, or spend months building emotional intimacy behind closed doors. A man with deen and good character will seek family involvement and want a wali present, because Allah prescribed these boundaries for a reason: protection.
I understand that not every woman has a wali. Reverts or those who have lost their fathers may need to appoint an imam, a sheikh, or a trusted member of the community. Islam provides solutions. What it doesn’t permit is finding loopholes to suit our desires.
The problem is that many people are rehearsing marriage before actually being married.
The flirting.
The late-night conversations.
The daily good morning and goodnight texts.
The jealousy, possessiveness, and emotional dependency.
An engagement does not turn a non-mahram into a mahram.
Your fiancé is not your spouse.
Your ring is not a nikah.
Your feelings are not a nikah.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“No man is alone with a woman but that Shaytan is the third among them.”
(Tirmidhi 2165)
Then when engagements break down, people are left heartbroken and emotionally wounded. Allah knew exactly what He was protecting us from when He set these boundaries.
If you truly want barakah in your marriage, seek it through obedience to Allah. Until the nikah is done, _fear_Allah, guard your heart, and remember:
<CUSTOM_BOLD>Only the nikah makes what was once forbidden, halal.
It is also worth remembering that this advice applies equally to brothers. Accountability in Islam is never one-sided.
Men when you ask them to take accountability:
I was just kidding. You're so sensitive. You made me think it was fine. You should've known this was going to happen. can't do anything around you
Women when you ask them to take accountability:
I just did that because I care about you. I understand what youre going through even though our experiences are different. You're supposed to support other women
Nonbinary people when you ask them to take accountability:
l have ADHD and autism so l can't really understand these social cues. I'm going to set a boundary. lt's not fair of you to expect me to understand this
bugs when you ask them to take accountability:
im going to go under your skin rip out your skin scratch it off bugs under your skin rip them out theyre eating your flesh get them out now rip them out