All things marriage

"And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought." — Surah Ar-Rum, 30:21

I’ve realised I’m not someone who’s impressed by nice words alone.

Anyone can say the right thing. Anyone can tell you what you want to hear. Anyone can make promises, talk about the future, or tell you how much they care.

Do your actions match your words? Are you consistent when life gets busy? Do you show consideration without being asked? Do you remember the things that matter? Do you check in because you genuinely care, not because you’ve been called out for not doing it?

Consistency tells the truth that words often hide.

A person can say they care about you a hundred times, but if their actions leave you feeling forgotten, unimportant, or confused, then their behaviour is telling a different story.

Real interest isn’t loud. Real care isn’t performative. It’s shown in the small things, repeatedly, over time.

I’ve reached a point where I pay less attention to what people say and more attention to what they consistently do. Because actions require effort, while words are free.

Muzz gives us 8 matches to speak to for finding a spouse. It's not appropriate to monitor me and my matches especially when not one has asked for my wali and made serious moves. This is a marriage app not a dating app. I'm not anyone's woman or wife until the man actually makes me one. Performed the nikkah and everything.

With that said, why do I always get one match at a time when I am allowed 8 men to vet?

Im fine with muzz basic guys why do you always recommend muzz gold for me 🙂🙂

Hi!

It’s so annoying when guys just endlessly view my profile but never like or send a message. Just stalking.

One rule for the man I marry is
He can’t wear cologne outside 🚩🚫
A little roll on attar is ok

It’s not modest to create a scent trail
that will stay in the air for hours
It screams that he is desperate for attention 💀

Hi

The signs of the end of times are so visible, I recently saw a post made by an American Muslim woman who claimed that it's permissible for Muslim women to marry ahlul kitaab (people of the book), she said speak to your imam who hasn't got cultural bias and sadly a few women who clearly aren't knowledgeable liked her post

I'm so glad a few sisters corrected her publicly because it was necessary, I understand we live in a time where women don't like being corrected by men or spoken about by a group of men therefore, it's so important that we have knowledgeable students of knowledge who are women on social media that can correct other sisters if necessary because preventing misguidance is super important.

Al-Harith ibn ‘Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, sent Mu’adh to Yemen and he said, “How will you judge?” Mu’adh said, “I will judge according to the Book of Allah.” The Prophet said, “What if it is not in the Book of Allah?” Mu’adh said, “Then, with the Sunnah of the messenger of Allah.” The Prophet said, “What if it is not in the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah?” Mu’adh said, “Then, I will strive to form an opinion.” The Prophet said, “All praise is due to Allah, who has made suitable the messenger of the Messenger of Allah.”

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1327

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

1. The Hierarchy of Islamic Legislation
   Scholars of Usul al-Fiqh (the principles of Islamic jurisprudence) use this hadith as primary evidence for the strict legal hierarchy in Islam. A jurist or judge cannot bypass a higher source if an explicit answer is found there:
   The Quran (The Book of Allah): This is the supreme authority. A judge must first look for direct text (nass) or broad principles within the Quran. 
   The Sunnah (Prophetic Traditions): If the Quran provides a general principle but not specific details (for instance, the obligation of prayer is in the Quran, but the details of how to pray are in the Sunnah), the jurist turns to the actions, statements, and approvals of the Prophet ﷺ. 
   Ijtihad (Independent Juristic Reasoning): If a completely new issue arises that is not explicitly detailed in either the Quran or Sunnah, the scholar is authorized to exercise intellectual reasoning.

2. The Legitimacy of Ijtihad and Qiyas
   When Mu'adh says, "I will strive to form an opinion," the Arabic word used is Aj_tahidu (from which Ijtihad is derived).
   Scholars note that the Prophet's enthusiastic approval ("All praise is due to Allah...") serves as a definitive validation that the Islamic legal system is not rigid. It is designed to adapt to new eras, cultures, and unprecedented scenarios.
   Through Ijtihad, scholars utilize tools like Qiyas (analogical reasoning) matching a new, unaddressed issue to an existing rule based on a shared underlying cause ('illah).

3. The Qualifications Required for Ijtihad
   Scholars explicitly state that this permission was not a blanket license for anyone to use their personal whims.
   The Prophet ﷺ chose Mu'adh specifically because he was widely recognized among the companions as a premier scholar. In other narrations, the Prophet ﷺ remarked that Mu'adh was the most knowledgeable of his Ummah regarding what is lawful (Halal) and prohibited (Haram). 
   Therefore, Ijtihad is strictly restricted to those who have mastered the text, context, linguistics, and objectives (Maqasid) of the Quran and Sunnah.

4. Direct Approval of the Prophet ﷺ
   The conclusion of the hadith shows the Prophet ﷺ patting Mu'adh's chest and praising Allah. Juristically, this is categorized as Taqrir (tacit approval). In the Sunnah, what the Prophet ﷺ explicitly approved of carries the same legal weight as a direct command, finalizing the validity of this step-by-step legal methodology.

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