All things marriage

Lonelyyyyy..... i am so lonnnelyyyyy ..I have no bodyyyyyy .....🙃😀

If you were married what kind of fun stuff would you like to do with your partner and how often

🤣💰 No matter how ugly you are, once you have money, women will always find something cute in you like..
Awwww, he has such a cute shadow 🥹😍 💀😂💸

I wonder if this app actually works, and whether there are any real success stories of marriages that came from it. From what I can see, the only person profiting is the owner. Honestly, I think the whole system design of this app is dead.

Okay what is the standard protocol here? If we talk to multiple people on this app at the same time for marriage, does it count as cheating??

"My POV for muzz app (social+marriage) both side are equally misused and miss judged."

These pictures clearly shows what I get from this app.. The left picture is depicting a perfect same aged couple and their older version as they thinks like they are growing old together (mostly females are thinking like that). But the reality is different.

The picture on right side depicts today's young boys, who are thinking age isn't a problem (but boys it is a big problem you will never get it now).

I really don't know the thought process of young boys and also the male community who writes in their bio demanding mutual respect, but when a girl says NO for certain things I don't get it, suddenly where's the male egos comes in between.?

Mostly men connected me who are divorceed, having childrens, they didn't even bothered to read the Bio where I clearly mentioned my requirements. And here in social side mostly young boys (23, 30, 26) connected me and said "AGE SE HUME MSLA NAHI HAI, UNDERSTANDING HONI CHAHIYE".

I don't know if should respond anyone, anymore or not.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOD'S GUIDANCE AND EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY, WHEN LONELINESS LOOKS LIKE DESTINY : "Not Everyone Who Arrives Is God Sent."

Today, I want us to reflect on something many people have experienced but very few truly understand. You see this dua🤲 make sure you do not take it for granted.
💞 "Pray to marry someone whom Allah has sent, not merely someone who happened to appear during a season of loneliness. Loneliness has a way of making timing feel like destiny."

Human beings rarely make life changing decisions based solely on facts. More often than not, we make decisions based on how we feel.
When emotions become intense, they begin to distort our perception of reality.
💞 Fear exaggerates danger.
💞 Anger exaggerates offence.
💞 Pride exaggerates self importance.
💞 Loneliness exaggerates attachment.
It persuades us that the first person who brings comfort must surely have been sent by Allah. Yet comfort and divine approval are not synonymous. A comfortable decision can still be the wrong decision.

💯 UNDERSTANDING LONELINESS
Before discussing relationships, we must first understand loneliness itself. Loneliness is often misunderstood🤷‍♀️, it is not merely the absence of people. Many individuals are surrounded by family, colleagues, neighbours, and friends, yet they feel profoundly lonely. Why? Because loneliness is not the absence of company but the absence of meaningful connection. A person may speak with dozens of people every day and still feel unseen, unheard, and emotionally disconnected. At that point, the heart begins to crave significance more than companionship. This is where vulnerability begins. When the soul longs to be understood, almost anyone who listens attentively can appear extraordinary.

👌 ILLUSTRATION
Imagine a person who has not eaten for several days. Ordinarily, they might reject stale bread. However, after prolonged hunger, even crumbs become appealing. (E bi la pe😏)
Has the bread improved? No.
The hunger has changed the person's perception which that same principle applies emotionally.
A person who has gone years without affection, encouragement, appreciation, or genuine companionship can easily mistake ordinary kindness for extraordinary love.
❌ A simple text message suddenly feels deeply meaningful.
❌ A compliment feels unforgettable.
❌ A brief conversation feels like destiny.
Not because these gestures are exceptional, but because emotional deprivation has magnified their significance. This is why loneliness is so dangerous. It does not merely make us desire companionship but alters our judgement.

💯 TIMING IS NOT A PROOF OF DIVINE APPOINTMENT
Many people encounter someone immediately after experiencing heartbreak, divorce, grief, rejection, or disappointment. Because the encounter follows a painful chapter, they assume it must represent Allah's answer to their prayers. But let us consider this carefully.
👌 Every event that occurs is by Allah's permission.
👌 However, not every event represents Allah's approval. (relax I will explain😏).
Allah permits both tests and blessings. He allows opportunities to reveal our judgement. He allows choices to expose our character. The arrival of a person in your life is not, in itself, an evidence that they are destined to remain.
💞 Sometimes Allah sends people to teach us.
💞 Sometimes He sends them to refine us.
💞 Sometimes He sends them to expose weaknesses within us.
💞 Sometimes He sends them as lifelong companions.
The only grace you have is knowing when to apply wisdom (beeni✅). Because, wisdom lies in discerning the difference.

💯 ATTENTION IS NOT LOVE
One of the greatest misconceptions of our generation is confusing attention with affection.
Attention is inexpensive, almost anyone can provide attention. Affection, however, requires commitment.
💞 Someone may enjoy speaking with you every day without intending to build a future with you.
💞 Someone may admire your appearance without respecting your values.
💞 Someone may appreciate your company without possessing the character required to become your spouse.
💞 Attention satisfies curiosity.
💞 Affection requires sacrifice.
True love is measured not by intensity but by consistency. It is demonstrated through responsibility, integrity, patience, and sincere concern for another person's well being.

💯 LONELINESS REDUCES OUR STANDARDS
This is perhaps one of loneliness's most dangerous effects. People often believe they are lowering their expectations out of humility.
In reality, they are lowering their standards out of desperation. There is an important distinction or differences between contentment and self neglect.
💞 Contentment means appreciating what Allah has provided while maintaining self-respect.
💞 Desperation means accepting what diminishes your dignity simply because you fear being alone.
I was never taught or read to compromise my values merely to avoid loneliness. Rather, i was taught to place my trust in Allah while exercising sound judgement. Never confuse patience with settling.

💯 WHY ALLAH SOMETIMES DELAYS WHAT WE DESIRE
🤷‍♀️ Perhaps someone listening today has prayed for marriage for years.
🤷‍♀️ Perhaps another has prayed for loyal friendships.
🤷‍♀️ Perhaps another has prayed for companionship.
You ask, "Why has Allah not answered my prayer?" But consider another possibility.
Have you ever thought that it is possible Allah is answering your prayer through delay😫.
Imagine handing the keys of a powerful vehicle to a child. The vehicle is not harmful, the timing is.
💞 Marriage is a blessing.
💞 Friendship is a blessing.
💞 Success is a blessing.
Yet every blessing requires preparation.
Allah prepares both the gift and the recipient (which is you). Sometimes we focus entirely on receiving the blessing while forgetting that Allah is first shaping us into people capable of preserving it. Delay is not always denial. More often than we realise, it is protection.

💯 HOW CAN WE DISCERN WHETHER SOMEONE IS TRULY RIGHT FOR US?
Ask yourself questions that emotions cannot answer.
🤷‍♀️ Does this person draw me closer to Allah or further away?
🤷‍♀️ Do they display integrity when no one is watching?
🤷‍♀️ How do they treat people from whom they have nothing to gain?
🤷‍♀️ Can they admit when they are wrong?
🤷‍♀️ Do their actions consistently reflect their words?
🤷‍♀️ Would I admire their character even if they possessed neither wealth nor physical attractiveness?
🤷‍♀️ Would I still choose this person if I were not lonely?
These questions expose reality which feelings alone cannot.

💯 TRUST ALLAH, BUT ALSO USE THE INTELLECT HE HAS GIVEN YOU.
Islam never asks us to abandon reason. Quite the opposite. Allah (swt) repeatedly commands us in the Qur'an to reflect, contemplate, and use our intellect. The believer combines three essential elements:
💞 A heart that feels.
💞 A mind that reasons.
💞 A soul that seeks Allah's guidance.
When any one of these dominates the others, balance is lost.
💞 A heart without reason becomes impulsive.
💞 Reason without faith becomes arrogant.
💞 Faith without reflection becomes blind imitation.
Wisdom lies in maintaining all three. To everyone reading this piece, not everyone who enters your life has been sent to remain.
💞 Some people are lessons.
💞 Some are mirrors reflecting areas in which we must grow.
💞 Some are tests of our patience.
💞 Some are reminders of Allah's mercy.
And a precious few are blessings destined to accompany us through life.
❌ Do not mistake relief for love.
❌ Do not mistake attention for commitment.
❌ Do not mistake coincidence for divine confirmation.
Most importantly, do not allow temporary loneliness to influence permanent decisions. A heart anchored to Allah is far less likely to cling to the wrong people. There is a verse that speaks more about this in the holy book (Surah Albaqara 2:216). Which says, it is possible you dislike a thing while it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing while it is bad for you. Allah knows, while you do not know (shongbo oooo) Therefore,
🤲 Pray not merely for companionship.
🤲 Pray for discernment.
🤲 Pray not merely for someone who makes you feel wanted.
🤲 Pray for someone who helps you become more pleasing to Allah.
🤲 Pray not merely for a relationship that begins with excitement.
🤲 Pray for one that is built upon faith, wisdom, mutual respect, sincere compassion, and steadfast commitment.

Still your girl, ABEBI ADE
A self awareness advocate with a realist's lens, a visionary leader with purpose, a writer with a message, and an entrepreneur by survival. Here to inspire minds, provoke meaningful conversations, challenge perspectives, and remind the world that true growth begins with self awareness. Until next time, may Allah increase us in wisdom, guide our hearts to what is right, and grant us the courage to live by the truths we learn. As Salam alykum waramotullahi wabarakatuh

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One of the sustenance that can't be used with money, which is finding him Which unfortunately never changes, and don’t have many girl friend in his life ☕️

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"Simple, honest, and ambitious. Looking for a genuine connection. Respect and loyalty matter most."

I may be the wrong person to be giving advice but…

Since I first downloaded Muzz, I’ve noticed that a lot of the likes I receive are from… questionable men and it really got me thinking - I think a lot of people (both men and women) on here are single because they’re unrealistic and fail to ask themselves the question: am I my preference’s preference?