I met you when I wasn’t looking for you and then I lost you when I loved you the most.

My aunt's daughter asked me, "You don't like me, how should I tell her? I grew up with her. I don't feel like a wife to her." 🤦

What happened to this generation?
Why are men and women treating each other as a competition?
Men has to protect and provide
Women has to take care of the house
What's the fuss about ?

how do I explain that I'm supporting manchester united in the world cup

Just some reflection that has me thinking…

In my past talking stages, a lot of men my age group wanted to wait for marriage some 3/4 yrs 😳

Now I understand that everything needs time but come on, your in a life stage we’re most have had marriages before and children, what is it exactly are we waiting on death 🙃🤣

What could possibly an older man be waiting on, is it fear, unhealed wounds, or just keeping there options open ?

Personally I think no more than 6 months is a reasonable timeframe for marriage.

When i get older i will be stronger 🥲

"She's a volcano; he's a firefighter ."

1st connection, kinda nervous 🫪

fev song 🎵

I been thinking about the difference between calling out or debating behaviour one disagrees with and cancel culture. I been seeing a bit of cancel culture going around and it just got me thinking.

Cancel culture is a form of bullying, regardless of intentions- that's my hot take. Personally, I steer clear of it to keep myself right and shut it down if others try it with me. While yeah, it's a duty to protect other people from things like serious harm (i.e. abuse or deception)- it opens up doors to hate, backbiting, slandering and defamation. It's how you dehumanise someone, how rumours can spread and it easily discourages people from practicing discernment.

That doesn't mean we can't speak up for other forms of justice. There are ways to challenge poor behaviour peacefully, directly or privately without the need to cancel people or backbite. Speak up for yourself, advocate for what your values are without bringing someone down or challenge the person's behaviour directly, report them if need be. There's room for building understanding and guiding others in a peaceful way. Heck, you can even distance yourself from people if they don't align with your morals and values.

Also, what one sees in an individual, others may not have observed or paid attention to. They may have had a different experience with the person. That judgement towards those who aren't even involved of_"Oh so you condone this behaviour, because you interact with so and so, and they're bad individuals."_ is crazy work, when they're innocent. It's essentially lumping people together, just because they don't want to concern themselves in drama or because they judge by what's apparent. Doesn't mean that they support or condone certain actions.

All in all, as someone who's been on both ends of cancel culture in the past, I loathe it because to me it's a form of gossip, backbiting, and it's clique behaviour. I can't respect it. Bashing someone publically or spreading awareness about their sins through backbiting them to others is not worth the energy- in fact it speaks volumes about the person encouraging it when they have their own sins to worry about. One can easily become the exact thing they're criticising in others, similar or worse. Publically criticising someone's wrongdoings or backbiting them to others doesn't make anyone right.

That's my waffling vent done for the evening. Tldr: cancel culture is a no no.