All things marriage

Good evening
All of us are complaining here and there, My question is who's the right person? 😔😔😔

Salam , i looking for wife

Hello there, im new here
I wanna make some friends, feel free to text me

I hate being used that is y I don't use anyone and I pray to Allah that everyone should able to see through a person. Though we are only human but some mistakes can be avoided.

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Assalam o Alaikum brothers and sisters:

A couple of days ago I had a few interesting discussions with some wise people here on Jamaa, i thought the crux of those should be shared with you guys.

@@>What type of characteristics should one seek in one's life partner? Charity, namaz, zakat, and many other things like this or materialistic ones like: looks, well settled, car, house in a good society, healthy bank balance etc.

Almost on every profile it is mentioned, does charity, honest, offer 5 times prayer etc. are all personal matters of a person, usually no one present to corroborate the claims made by that person. You have no equipment to check whether a person's claims are true/false. if a person talks about these things with others, that he is performing these, he is very pious etc, then  he may be showing it off, and in my opinion the people who show off are not trustworthy.

In my first post we discussed a lot about 4 categories of a settled man. No need to discuss again. Most of the sisters nowadays (whether they confess or not) seek a partner who should be practising Muslim and well settle (belongs to upper middle class/elite class) as well. Tell me honestly, is it possible in this era to find a male who possesses both these qualities simultaneously? If yes then how many men you'll find, will they be enough to fulfill the demand?

Pardon me I am adding some facts & figures here.

There are about 56m(1m=1000000) young people whose age is 18-35 yrs in Pak, half of them are females. Tell me now, out of 28m males, how many falls in middle/upper class? How many of them are practising Muslims...? How many of them are ready to marry a girl from a lower class than theirs?  The last one is more Bitter but true, how many are there who are willing to marry a girl who is in her late 20s or 30+ year old?  Our per Capita income is lower than Rs. 45000 (i.e. lowest pay set in 2026-27 budget) which is still much higher than many who work in the private sector. Females know very well what type of complications can arise after 30, no need to discuss more.
There is more to discuss, but it's enough for today. Sisters now you can assess all this,  and can see clearly where you are standing at the moment.

In my opinion, girls and their families should focus on, whether a man is responsible and able to earn(have any kind of skill) and fulfill her wife's essential needs, education, does he give respect to the females in his family, have own house is a genuine demand but plz drop society restriction. And plz try to come out of the caste system also, we're all Muslims,  if you find a suitable match, then go for it, rather to wait for better and the best

I have no intention to degrade, mock, humiliate, or belittle anyone, maybe I am wrong, but I wrote here what I have analyzed in our society,  you can disagree, start an argument, but be logical and respectful plz because many of us are always ready to agree to disagree...

A wife needs a man who rivals her father in affection, attention, and generosity, not a man who tests his strength and power over her.

Hllo

I've been reading about narcissistic traits and emotional maturity lately. It made me wonder how important self-awareness is in a marriage. Do you think someone can have narcissistic tendencies and still build a healthy relationship if they're willing to grow?

One thing I've learned is that confidence and narcissism aren't the same. To you, what's the biggest difference between healthy confidence and unhealthy self-centeredness in a spouse?

In Islam we're encouraged to have humility, empathy, and good character. What qualities do you think best protect a marriage from pride and emotional manipulation?