All things marriage

If you could give your younger self just one sentence of advice, what would it be? Mine would be: "Don't rush what Allah has already written for you." 🤍

Everyone keeps telling me to find a good match and get married but I think that what if I dont develop feelings for my husband after marriage, or what if I dont like him? Then what’s the point of getting married?👀😌

Peace be upon u

I need a voice recorder option to post here.😭im done with so much typing.........oh My delicate hands and oh my delicate fingers are in pain ....What is their fault? I know, it's my fault. But I think it's better to explain better and to make it better, you have to explain more........

Khiii khiii khiii 😂

What kind of husband does a girl truly want?

I met this guy on this app and honestly, I like him. He’s sweet, kind, and I enjoy talking to him. The problem is that he’s already a married man.

He’s 29, and when I asked him when he sees himself getting married to me, he said in about 3 years. For me, that feels like a very long time. I keep asking myself, why should I stay loyal and wait for a married man for 3 years when there’s no certainty?

I like him, but I also have to think about myself and my future. Three years is a lot of time, and by then things could be very different for both of us.

I already told him I don’t think I can wait that long. Am I thinking too much, or am I right to be cautious?

Don't make religion a net to catch preys.
If you're not religious, why do you mention that you prays five times a day, this and that ?
Whoever you're, it's oky if you don't wanna share your weaknesses you can simply tell about your qualities. But stop being hypocrites .
Yahan koi farigh nai betha hua apki kahaniyan sunny ky liy. Bad me reveal kr rahy hen log ky dekhen men utna religious nahi hu. What the hell is this.

Husband chronicles; #37

She claims to lead. She is very sweet in nature and manner, yet she is impatient and her impatience gives way to assertiveness. Her assertiveness is proof in circular-reasoning that she is a leader, which causes her to be impatient. Leading her to be more assertive.

Despite the fact that I had already been planning, working, and saving our future reservation, she convinced herself that she is the leader and that I don’t provide. So she must step-up. Because the means provided by Allah ﷻ were not coming fast enough for her appetites.

I see this in the men that work for me, non-Muslims raised by single mothers. They convince themselves that they are the only ones doing meaningful work on the job site so they deserve a raise and an advance. How can she claim to be channeling “masculine energy” when she is acting like uneducated men who were not raised to be men, by men. Men who have convinced themselves that they are entitled to special treatment for performing their job adequately.

I try to involve her family, but her father sent her to be educated at a modern secular schools and told her she deserves the job and all the money. She became the job, where she was rewarded for impatience and being assertive. Now she thinks she gave up rewards to be married. It’s almost like she has convinced herself that if she is impatient and assertive like she was at her job, that she will get more rewards.

She thinks she can have so much more if I was more of a man like her father who told her that she deserves the rewards when she acts impatiently and is assertive, because she’s more of a leader than me, despite the working, planning, and savings that I do for our future reservation.

Doesn’t she know what we are striving for?