All things marriage

Surah Ar-Rahman asks the same question over and over: فَبِأَيِّ آلَاءِ رَبِّكُمَا تُكَذِّبَانِ

"So which of your Lord's favours will you deny?"
Not once or twice, but 31 times. It's not repetition, it's a gentle call from our Rabb, because He knows how quickly we forget. How often we overlook the very blessings we once begged for.
How easily we get used to the gifts that once brought us to tears. We cried for peace, and now we take quiet moments for granted. We prayed for healing, and once it came, we barely looked back to say thank You.
But even in our forgetfulness, Allah continues to give.

If he doesn’t propose marriage within a couple weeks of meeting you, he’s not the one sis

I want a honest and loyal girlfriend

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Hello

i reacted to his story and he didn't dm me. men can never catch a hint

A few days ago, I matched with a lady on a marriage app. Alhamdulillah, our conversations started off really well. Since we were both working professionals, we agreed on a fixed time to talk so that neither of us would disturb the other's work schedule.

To make things easier, I even adjusted my lunch break from 1:00 PM to 3:00 PM because that was the time she was free. We would usually talk during our lunch breaks, and at our agreed time slot for about 15 days, everything seemed to be going well.

However, during the last five days, I started feeling that perhaps her interest in continuing the conversation had changed. I would message at our agreed time and often find my messages being seen without a reply. I didn't jump to conclusions because I assumed she was busy with her professional responsibilities.

On the 13th day, I messaged her as usual. About 20 minutes later, I received only a "Wa Alaikum As salam," after which she disappeared again. I sent one or two more messages, but they remained unread until the next day. Even after they were seen, there was no reply.

On the 14th day, we did manage to talk, but the conversation felt different. While I was trying to keep the discussion going, her replies were mostly "Hmm," "Okay," "Ji," or "Right." Thinking she might simply be exhausted, I asked if she was tired and suggested that she get some rest. She replied, "So sweet of you," and ended the conversation.

On the last day, we spoke again at our usual time. Initially, everything seemed normal, but after a while the same pattern returned—very short replies and little interest in the conversation. I asked if she was tired again, and she said yes. So I told her not to worry, that I didn't want to disturb her and that she should get some rest. She immediately replied, "Allah Hafiz, take care." I responded the same way and went back to my work without making her feel pressured to continue.

The next day, when I opened the app, I discovered that she had unmatched and blocked me.

To be honest, that wasn't what disappointed me the most. If she felt that we weren't compatible or that things weren't working out, I would have genuinely appreciated a simple and respectful message saying so. I completely respect people's choices, but I believe clear communication is always better than disappearing without any explanation.

The reason I'm sharing this isn't to complain or criticize anyone. It's simply a reminder that many people on these apps are making genuine efforts. Not everyone has unlimited free time. Some of us adjust our schedules, rearrange our work breaks, and invest our time because we're sincerely trying to get to know the other person. Any relationship—especially one intended for marriage—requires effort, interest, and time from both sides. As the saying goes, it takes two hands to clap.

Also, this was never about needing someone to pass the time. Alhamdulillah, I work as an HR Head and manage a team with over 100 female employees. If my intention was simply to seek attention or waste time, opportunities are certainly not lacking. In fact, several colleagues regularly approach me for HR-related matters, and some even try to build personal rapport. But that's not what I'm looking for. I joined a marriage app because I'm serious about finding a life partner, not because I need casual conversations or validation.

I have unmatched people before as well, but I always tried to do it respectfully. If I felt we weren't compatible, I would politely explain that our personalities or expectations didn't seem to align. I believe everyone deserves that basic level of courtesy.

Finally, I would like to request both brothers and sisters who are using marriage apps: please remember why these platforms exist. If you're no longer interested, a polite and honest conversation takes only a minute and leaves both people with dignity. After all, this is a marriage app—not a time-pass app.

Question for boys:

Why are many boys nowadays choosing a simple, religious (Deendar) girl from a village over a city-based, highly educated, and working life partner?

Boys and girls, share your thoughts in the comment section.

Assalam Alaikum! Everyone. I'm just new here.

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