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Between 'love at first sight' and 'love that grows through time and understanding'.. I always find that chemistry is a gift, but staying together is a choice.
Infatuation might start with a passing glance, just like in the movies. But true love only begins when time proves that this person aligns with your ambitions, respects your mind, and shares your smallest details."
My dad when my brothers used to try and sneak in at 2am 🤣🤣🤣
BISMILLAH.
🌿 Taaruf Questions: Getting to Know a Future Spouse
"And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy."
— Qur'an 30:21
🤲 Faith & Deen
What brings you closer to Allah?
How do you maintain your daily prayers?
What Islamic values are non-negotiable for you?
How do you seek knowledge about Islam?
Are you open to continuing to learn and grow together after marriage?
❤️ Marriage & Values
Why do you want to get married?
What does a successful marriage look like to you?
What are your expectations of a husband/wife?
What love language makes you feel most appreciated?
How do you show love during difficult times?
😊 Emotional Intelligence
How do you respond when you're upset?
How do you usually resolve conflicts?
How do you handle criticism?
What is a personal weakness you're working on?
How do you apologize when you're wrong?
💰 Financial Matters
How do you budget and manage money?
Do you have any debts or financial commitments that a future spouse should know about?
What are your financial goals for the next 5–10 years?
Do you believe spouses should have joint or separate finances, or a combination?
What does financial responsibility mean to you?
🏡 House Chores & Daily Life
How do you see household responsibilities being shared?
Do you enjoy cooking, or would you rather share or divide tasks?
How important is cleanliness and organization to you?
What does your ideal daily routine at home look like?
If one spouse is overwhelmed, how should the other respond?
👶 Children & Parenting
Would you like to have children? If so, how many?
What values would you want to teach your children?
How do you view discipline and education?
How would you handle disagreements about parenting?
If Allah tests us with infertility, how do you think we should face it together?
👨👩👧 Family & Parents
How close are you to your parents?
What role should parents have after marriage?
How would you balance your spouse's needs with your family's expectations?
What would you do if conflict arose between your spouse and your parents?
What does honoring parents look like while protecting your marriage?
🤝 Communication
Do you prefer resolving issues immediately or after taking time to think?
How often do you think couples should have meaningful conversations?
What communication habit do you value most?
What makes you feel heard and respected?
🌍 Lifestyle & Future
Where do you hope to live in the future?
What are your career or business goals?
What kind of lifestyle do you hope to build?
What dream would you love to achieve with your spouse?
💕 Marital Intimacy
***Discuss this topic with respect, modesty, and only when both parties are comfortable.
Have you learned about the Islamic rights and responsibilities of spouses regarding intimacy?
Are you willing to learn together from authentic Islamic sources if we have different understandings?
Do you believe intimacy should always be based on kindness, mutual respect, and consideration for each other?
Is there anything important about this aspect of marriage that you think should be discussed before marriage?
🚩 Important Matters
Have you been married before?
Do you have any health conditions that could affect married life?
Do you have any legal, financial, or family responsibilities that your future spouse should know?
What is something you think a future spouse deserves to know about you before marriage?
🌸 Before You Decide
Remember: Taaruf is not about finding someone perfect. It is about discovering whether two imperfect people can worship Allah, face life's tests, and build a home filled with sakinah (tranquility), mawaddah (love), and rahmah (mercy).
"...Live with them in kindness..."
— Qur'an 4:19
The goal of taaruf is not simply to reach marriage. The goal is to make a wise, informed, and God-conscious decision before marriage.
WALLAHUALAM.
