This got a bit long, but here's my Muzz match story. 😬

I first came across Muzz sometime around 2020. I don’t remember the exact year anymore 😵‍💫 but I do remember how hopeful I was when I first joined. Like many people on a matrimonial app, I thought I would meet someone, get to know them and eventually find my person.

It didn’t quite happen that way. 😂

I had a few very disappointing and exhausting experiences, to the point that I deleted my account twice I guess. I eventually created a new account in mid 2023 and remained on and off the app ever since. Every time I came back I tried a slightly different approach but the pattern often remained the same... people saying they wanted marriage but not necessarily being ready for the kind of marriage I was looking for.

Over time I became much more intentional about the process.

I had a very clear idea of what mattered to me: deen over culture, a simple nikah, no dowry or unnecessary traditions, living independently from in-laws, mutual respect, emotional maturity, clear communication and most importantly, someone who actually wanted marriage rather than simply wanting to “see where things go.”

I was also very particular about how I used the app. I usually spoke to only one person at a time because I didn’t want to treat people like options on a shopping list. If I matched with someone, I gave them space to look through my pictures and read my rather detailed bio. If they didn’t initiate a conversation, I would give them another opportunity and then move on if there was still no response.

Some people thought my bio was too firm. Some told me I was too particular. And honestly, after enough disappointing experiences I started questioning myself too.

Was I being unrealistic?
Were my expectations too high?
Should I compromise on certain things just because finding someone who aligned with them was proving difficult?

Then, on 13th February 2026, I matched with him. ❤️

We started talking and from the beginning our intention was simply to get to know each other properly and see whether there was genuine compatibility. We both wanted marriage but we also understood that wanting the same outcome doesn't automatically mean two people are right for each other.

Because we wanted to keep the process as halal as possible, we made a conscious decision to communicate only through messages. No calls, no unnecessary expectations and no rushing into an emotional relationship before we even knew whether we were compatible.

It was quite literally just two people trying to get to know each other through text messages.

Over the next month, we discussed almost everything we could think of...our understanding of marriage, deen, family, finances, living arrangements, responsibilities, children, expectations, deal-breakers and the kind of life we wanted to build.

And of course, there were moments when I overthought things. 😂

After some of my previous experiences, I had become very cautious about simply believing what someone told me. I wanted to see whether their actions actually matched their words.

Eventually, after we both realised that we were serious about each other and genuinely wanted to explore this further, we decided to meet in person about a month after matching.

The meeting went well and it gave us even more confidence that what we had built through conversations wasn't just an online connection.

But even after meeting, we didn't suddenly throw away the boundaries we had established from the beginning. We continued to respect the limits we had agreed upon because as I mentioned, we both wanted to keep the process as halal as possible.

Once we were confident that we wanted to take things forward, we involved our families.

And that was when the story got a little more interesting. 😂

Of course, it wasn't completely rosy.

We come from very different backgrounds. His family is originally from Uttar Pradesh, while mine is from Gujarat. His mother tongue is Urdu, while Gujarati is what I speak at home. We have different cultural backgrounds, family dynamics and traditions.

So naturally, there were some doubts and uncertainties when the families first became involved.

But Alhamdulillah, it wasn't as difficult as we had feared either.

By that point, we were very sure about each other and more importantly, we were very clear about how we wanted to build our marriage. We weren't expecting our families to suddenly have identical backgrounds or traditions. We simply wanted them to understand that we had chosen each other based on our values and intentions and that we were willing to make the differences work.

Eventually, Alhamdulillah! our families were happy for us.

One of the things we both strongly agreed on from the beginning was that we didn't want our marriage to be dictated by cultural practices simply because they had been followed by previous generations.

We wanted our nikah to be simple, meaningful and according to sunnah.

And Alhamdulillah!! that's exactly what we did.💃🏻

Finally, on 2nd August 2026, we had our Nikaah in a masjid, followed by a very intimate celebration at home and our Walima in the way we wanted it rather than turning our marriage into a long list of things other people expected from us.

After years of joining Muzz, deleting my account, coming back, getting disappointed, questioning myself, wondering whether my standards were too high and wondering whether I would ever actually find someone who aligned with the things I cared about...Alhamdulillah, I found him.✨️

And perhaps the biggest lesson I'm taking away from this entire journey is that sometimes the hardest part isn't finding someone... It’s trusting yourself enough not to abandon the things that genuinely matter to you just because you haven't found the right person yet.

I don't believe everyone needs to have a long list of requirements. But I do believe there is a difference between being unwilling to compromise on your core values and simply being too rigid about small things. Know which is which. 🤝🏻

Don't lower the standards that are genuinely important to you just because the search is taking longer than you expected. The fact that you haven't found someone who reciprocates those values yet doesn't mean nobody will.

At the same time, give people the opportunity to be human. You don't need to find someone perfect. You need to find someone whose character, values, intentions and direction are compatible with yours and then build the rest together.

For anyone still searching on Muzz, I know how exhausting it can become. I know what it feels like to have one disappointing conversation after another and wonder whether your person even exists.

But keep your intentions sincere. Be honest about what you want. Learn from your experiences without allowing them to make you cynical. Do your due diligence but don't let fear make every new person pay for the mistakes of the people who came before them.

And most importantly, have Tawakkul.

Sometimes Allah doesn't give you what you're asking for when you ask for it because He's preparing something that makes all the waiting make sense.

I spent years wondering whether I was expecting too much.

Alhamdulillah, I eventually found someone who made me realise I wasn't asking for too much. I was just asking the wrong people.

And the funny thing is, after all those years on Muzz, the final chapter was actually much simpler than I expected:

Two people with sincere intentions matched on an app, chose to get to know each other with boundaries, met when they felt ready, involved their families, navigated their differences and eventually turned a Muzz match into a marriage.

Alhamdulillah for the journey, the lessons, the patience, the tawakkul and most of all, for the person waiting at the end of it. 🤍

We are now looking forward to building the best days of our lives together in this duniya Insha'Allah!!! Until Allah reunites us in Jannah.💫

Please keep us in your duas. And to everyone still searching...May Allah write something beautiful for you too. Aameen. 🤍

@shaz @muzz