Psychology & Neurodiversity

Unlearning the western psychology I've been learning and integrating Islamic psychology. SubhanAllah what an eye-opener! Who else has ventured down this road?

I don’t think people realize how far their actions can go. You can hurt someone so deeply that they can’t even talk about it to anyone. They’re sitting somewhere alone, crying in front of God, asking, “Why me? Why always me? What did I do wrong?”

You have no idea they’re in a state where they’re not even angry anymore just confused. Because they were kind to you, cared for you, and still ended up being the one trying to make sense of the pain you left behind.

I’ve noticed something about myself,
I often connect more easily with men who don’t share the same religion as me.

I’m not sure why.

Does anyone else feel this too?

The most underrated sign of a right person who you become around them.
Not how they make you feel.
Who you become.
Because feelings are temporary. Feelings depend on mood, on circumstance, on how well you slept the night before.
But identity? Identity is what stays.
Research in relationship psychology shows that the people closest to us don't just influence our emotions they literally shape our self concept. Who we believe we are. What we think we're capable of. What we feel we deserve.
This is called the Michelangelo Phenomenon.
Just like Michelangelo believed the sculpture already existed inside the marble the right person sees who you're becoming before you see it yourself. And slowly, through how they treat you, what they expect of you, what they reflect back they chip away everything that isn't you.
The wrong person does the opposite.
Around them you shrink. You edit yourself. You become more anxious, more guarded, more unsure. Not because you're weak but because something in that dynamic is slowly carving the wrong shape.
Ask yourself honestly
Around this person, are you expanding or contracting?
Are you becoming more yourself or a quieter, smaller, more careful version?
Because the right person won't complete you.
They'll clarify you.
And that clarity of who you are, what you want, what you stand for is the rarest gift one person can give another.
Don't settle for someone who just makes you feel good.
Wait for someone who makes you more.

HEY EVERYONE 👋
«Hi» is the cheapest way to start a conversation a reflection of your awareness and your ability to formulate a goal… just noise🌎
If you write just «hi» it means you don’t value your time or my time
If you don’t value your own time, then you don’t value yourself
And if you don’t value yourself, then why should I value you?
(It sounds harsh, but I don’t know how else to explain my point of view)

“Hi” is like a mass market of ideas a moss market

Assalamualaikum
Tell me what the characteristics of a serious and responsible man are. How long before we can psychologically see if he's truly good? Are there any specific signs?

The data behind modern dating is darker than you think.
Let's talk numbers. Real ones.
78% of dating app users feel emotionally exhausted by online dating. Not sometimes. Regularly. (Forbes Health, 2024 : 1,000 users surveyed)
84% of Gen Z and Millennial daters have been ghosted. And two thirds of them have ghosted someone else. We are both the victim and the perpetrator of the same cycle. (2025 research data)
79% of Gen Z and 80% of Millennials report dating app burnout. In the UK alone, 1.4 million people left dating apps between 2023 and 2024.
And here's the most painful finding
People who used dating apps seeking social approval felt lonelier over time. But people who used them genuinely pursuing relationships did not. (Sage Journals)
Same app. Completely different psychological outcome based entirely on why you're there.
Research now consistently links dating app use to lower self-esteem, body dissatisfaction, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion not because rejection is new, but because the architecture of these apps may amplify pre-existing insecurities in ways traditional dating never did. (Psychology Today)
And the cruelest part? The permanent visibility of alternatives weakens emotional investment users disengage from potentially meaningful conversations simply because another profile appears momentarily more appealing. (Psychology Today)
We built technology to find connection.
And somehow made loneliness more efficient.
The question isn't whether the app works.
The question is do you know why you're actually here?

How do you deal with laid back narcissistic man/husband?

Hello❤️