Psychology & Neurodiversity

Do you guys think it’s kinda cute when you have your first argument with someone you really like?
Or is it just me... 🤭
For me it meant we’re getting to know each other better. I see it as growth not as a threat.

This quote really made me pause:

“We don’t marry people and their families. We marry their childhood.”

I wouldn’t say it’s entirely true, but I do believe our childhood profoundly influences how we love, communicate, and navigate conflict.

That said, I think our choices as adults matter even more. Our past may shape us, but it doesn’t have to define us.

What’s your take? Do you think childhood has the greater influence, or do our choices as adults ultimately matter more?

Hi hello

Anyone else looking into a partner that has ADHD? Anyone else finding it difficult like at beginning things looked promising and now his adhdness such as snapping, turning everything to argument, not prioritising a halal get to know periodness and all the horrible traits which he says he is working on is creeping up. It is draining to be on the receiving end and I am trying to be patient and understanding and not reject him based on that as know that people with adhd take those badly and well maybe that's why he is just acting out now to protect himself. Anyway thoughts…

Okay, so can someone who studies psychology explain this? Every time there's nobody at home, I immediately feel like being productive. And when I say immediately, I mean IMMEDIATELY. The second I realize I'm alone, I feel so at ease and suddenly start doing all the things I've been procrastinating—and even more. 😭

Allahumma inni as'aluka Jannah for my parents, halal wealth for my hands, and a heart that never leaves Your door. Ameen? 🤲

We all grow from two experience

1. The pain of loosing
2. The joy of winning.

These two experience will have have impact in your life, it all depends on the one that you allow to dominate you

Do you believe in the red thread theory?👀

𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗔𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

Love does not always disappear but its nature certainly evolves over time. The restlessness of the early days of marriage, the constant expressions of affection and the thrill of new love may fade with time but respect should remain as steadfast as it was on day one.

Respect is not merely about speaking kind words. It means protecting each other's feelings, trust, vulnerabilities, dignity and self-respect. It is reflected in your emotional presence, in standing by your spouse when they need you most and in protecting their honor when others fail to respect it.

When your spouse comes to you broken and you fail to be their anchor when someone speaks ill of them and you merely advise patience instead of defending their dignity when they need you most and do not find you by their side .... they slowly stop viewing you as their safe space

This does not necessarily mean that love has disappeared or that you no longer care for one another. You remain partners, bound by a shared journey, a family, a life and countless responsibilities.
However when a person repeatedly feels that they must carry every hardship, every pain and every emotional burden alone, they gradually become emotionally independent. Once someone no longer sees you as their safe haven, the emotional closeness that once came naturally begins to fade. Over time, this can weaken admiration, create silent cracks in respect and slowly diminish the attraction, comfort and longing that once drew two hearts toward each other.

If I were to sum it all up I would say 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿'𝘀 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗺 When one fails at this, silent and deep distances begin to creep into relationships.

Love may begin a relationship but respect is what makes two hearts choose each other again and again

May Almighty Allah grant us all the wisdom to understand these nuances and the strength to act upon them. May He bless us with the righteous partner, virtuous offspring and good neighbors Ameen🤍

Respect yourself enough to walk away from those committed to misunderstanding you.