Muslims in Singapore

Open this application like playing around, nothing serious

Salam! Looking for Muslimah kakis to go on trips (am 30F who eats halal food/Muslim friendly food only, keeps up with my daily prayers):

1. Learn free diving in Tioman (coz I wanna snorkel without life vest)
2. Try kite surfing in Bintan in July
3. Try surfing in tioman/ Langkawi or even Bali
4. Philippines to swim with whale sharks, canyoneering and climb Mt apo
5. Try snorkeling/diving and climb Mt Rinjani at lombok

Assalamualaikum. Looking for jodoh in Singapore 💞

I want a Muslimah who fears Allah, wants to be a wife and serve the husband for the sake of Allah and wants children and wants them to love Allah and Rasulullah and wants to walk hand in hand with the husband and children, in the path towards Allah...

Before the hijabis start bashing me with, "what is your role?" and "how do you do think a husband should behave?" and what the husband's rights and responsibilities towards a wife is...let me answer it beforehand...

My role would be to be a Muslimin who fears Allah, wants to be a husband and support the wife for the sake of Allah and wants children and wants them to love Allah and Rasulullah s.a.w and wants to walk hand in hand with the wife and children, in the path towards Allah...

If someone asks me to come home to Indonesia and get married, I'm ready, darling, it's all just nonsense.

Bismillah

A BELIEVER IS NOT WEAK — HE HAS HONOUR, SABR & BOUNDARIES

Islam does not teach a man to be harsh, arrogant, or abusive.
But Islam also does not teach a man to lose his dignity, self-respect, and principles just to gain someone’s approval.

Allah ﷻ says:
“And honour belongs to Allah, His Messenger, and the believers.”
📖 Surah Al-Munafiqun 63:8

A Muslim man should be kind, merciful, and loving toward his wife, but never desperate, humiliated, or blind to wrongdoing.

The Prophet ﷺ said: “The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but the one who controls himself when angry.”
📚 Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim

Real strength is not cruelty.
It is self-control, leadership, patience, and boundaries.

1. A Man Without Boundaries Loses Respect
   Constantly tolerating insults, manipulation, betrayal, and disrespect is not patience — it is self-destruction.

Islam teaches balance.

Allah ﷻ says:
“Live with them in kindness.”
📖 Surah An-Nisa 4:19

But kindness does not mean accepting oppression or humiliation.

The Prophet ﷺ said: “There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.”
📚 Sunan Ibn Majah 2340

A man who abandons all standards just to keep someone from leaving will eventually lose himself.

2. Begging for Love Weakens a Person
   Some men give endlessly hoping to be loved:
   over-chasing,
   over-sacrificing,
   over-explaining,
   and tolerating everything out of fear of loss.

But the believer’s heart should be attached to Allah ﷻ — not dependent on people.

Allah ﷻ says:
“Whoever puts his trust in Allah, then He is sufficient for him.”
📖 Surah At-Talaq 65:3

Desperation for people weakens dignity.
A believer loves sincerely, but never loses himself to please creation.

3. Leadership Requires Strength & Justice
   Islam made the man a protector and maintainer of the family — not a tyrant and not a servant of emotions.

Allah ﷻ says:
“Men are caretakers of women…”
📖 Surah An-Nisa 4:34

A righteous man knows when to say:
“This is wrong.”
“I will not accept disrespect.”
“We will solve this with justice and wisdom.”

Boundaries are not oppression.
They protect love, peace, and dignity.

4. Being “Nice” Is Not the Same as Being Righteous
   Many people confuse weakness with good character.

Silence in the face of constant disrespect is not always patience.
Allowing yourself to be emotionally destroyed is not piety.

The Prophet ﷺ never oppressed others, but he also never allowed falsehood to dominate him.
Islam teaches:
✔ Mercy
✔ Wisdom
✔ Patience
✔ Self-respect
✔ Justice
—not emotional slavery to people.

5. The Greatest Loss Is Losing Yourself & Your Relationship With Allah
   When a man sacrifices his deen, principles, confidence, and identity for people, he becomes empty inside.

The believer’s value comes from obedience to Allah ﷻ, not from chasing validation.

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah even if people dislike it, Allah will suffice him against the people.”
📚 Jami‘ at-Tirmidhi 2414

Final Reminder
A strong Muslim man:
• Loves deeply
• Leads with mercy
• Speaks with wisdom
• Protects his dignity
• Sets healthy boundaries
• Fears Allah more than losing people

Because real honour is not in being feared by people —
it is in obeying Allah while treating others with justice and compassion.

Strength without mercy becomes ظلم (oppression).
Mercy without boundaries becomes weakness.
Islam teaches the balance between both.

I really thought working in the fitness industry would increase my chances of finding a husband… but now I’m just standing here questioning everything 😭 Somehow, 70% of the men here already have zero interest in women, if you get what I mean. My future husband is apparently not loading at this gym 🤣

Why is it so hard to find someone and settle down nowadays ? Is it too much expectations or too much choices ? 🤣

please read the profile so you don't ask me which country I'm from

please read the profile so you don't ask me which country I'm from