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Meaning of “Illusion” in the Qur’an
In the Qur’an, the idea often translated as “illusion” is not about the world being fake or unreal. It refers to being misled by appearances or becoming attached to something temporary as if it were permanent or ultimate. The Arabic terms used carry meanings closer to deception, distraction, or misjudgment rather than non-existence.
Worldly Life as Deceptive (Ghurur)
One key concept is ghurur, often translated as “delusion” or “deception.” In this sense, worldly life is described as deceptive because it can make people forget its temporary nature and overvalue material success. For example, Qur’an 57:20 explains that worldly life is like play, amusement, and deceptive enjoyment. The focus is on how it can mislead perception and priorities, not that it is unreal.
Worldly Life as Play and Distraction (La‘ib and Lahw)
The Qur’an also uses the terms la‘ib (play) and lahw (distraction or amusement). These words describe how people can become absorbed in worldly pursuits as if they are the main purpose of existence. The meaning is psychological and behavioral: life can distract attention from deeper spiritual responsibility and truth.
Not Denial of Physical Reality
Classical Islamic interpretation is clear that the physical world is real and created by God. It is not an illusion in the sense of being imaginary. Instead, it is a temporary stage of existence that should not be mistaken for the ultimate reality or final destination.
Focus on Misperception, Not Non-Existence
The Qur’anic idea of “illusion” is about human perception being easily misled. The problem is not the existence of the world, but how humans interpret it and prioritize it. The illusion is believing the temporary is permanent or the superficial is ultimate.
Main Meaning in Simple Terms
In Qur’anic language, “illusion” means being deceived by appearances and forgetting deeper truth, not that reality itself is fake or unreal.
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Why do men think they know a woman body and better than a woman her self. A woman can still convince at 45 yes everyone is different however everyone is also different. So to the selfish lads who have kids and say I don't want anymore or your old you can't have kids. Go educate that cultured ignorant close mind of yours. 😌
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Disability, Marriage, and True Equality
This mindset is exactly like racism — when they say “go back to your country and we don’t want you here”. It’s the same harmful way of thinking: they see one difference, label you as “not one of us”, and treat you like you don’t belong or deserve the same respect and rights as everyone else.
When it comes to getting married, this attitude is even more unfair. People act as if having a disability means you have no right to look for a partner, or that you should only stay within your own group, or that you have nothing to bring to a marriage. Some also worry that it will automatically be passed down to children — but most of the time it is not genetic, it is not in the genes at all. Even when there is a small chance, it is never a reason to judge someone’s worth or character.
A disabled person has more to give than you think
Many people think that being disabled is a life sentence where you will be doomed for the rest of your life. In fact, it’s far different! Firstly, disability ranges from amputees and wheelchair users to people with differences or even those whose disability may not be apparent at all. Both those with minor and more visible disabilities have qualities that may surprise many people.
For example, most of us want a partner who is loyal, values life deeply, and doesn’t give up when challenges come — which is exactly what marriage is all about. Having faced difficulties and barriers in life, many disabled people grow to be far more resilient, patient, determined, and appreciative of the people and blessings around them. They know what it means to work hard, adapt, and keep going, and they bring that same commitment and strength into a relationship.
Research also supports this: a study of over 675 participants found that when people look beyond physical differences, qualities like empathy, resilience, and character are what truly define attraction — and interestingly, women in the study actually rated men with physical disabilities as more attractive overall than able‑bodied men.
The “one” may not look the way you think
If you are contemplating getting married to a person with a disability, please don’t look at them with pity or think that you are doing them a “favour”. In fact, opening your heart and mind to disabled individuals actually benefits you! Not only does it make you a better Muslim by avoiding discrimination and treating people equally, but it also opens up the chance to meet someone who could truly be your soul mate.
So many people have a fixed image in their head — imagining their partner as a “knight in shining armour” or someone who fits a certain perfect standard — that they lose sight of what really matters: the heart, the soul, the faith and the character. It may just be that when Allah created your pair, He created them with a disability, and that is exactly where you need to look to find the right person for you.
Don’t discriminate against diversity
We have been blessed to live in a society with so much diversity, and we have learnt how to think for ourselves rather than just follow what others expect (though it is still very important to respect our families and elders). Within wider society, there are countless disabled people who are happily married — including those with more visible or significant differences. Their spouses have looked beyond the label of disability to see the person and their true qualities.
It often amazes me how many non‑Muslims, even without knowing the teachings of Islam, already live by these values of acceptance and equality. So it is only right that we as Muslims also fully appreciate and embrace the diversity that Allah created us in. I long for the day when people look to us as the best example of fairness, kindness, and inclusion.
In Islam, marriage is first and foremost a partnership built on deen, character, kindness, and mutual support — not about physical ability or being “perfect”. Most disabilities are not genetic and will not be passed down to children, and Allah is the One Who determines all matters of creation. We trust fully in His wisdom and plan. We are all equal in His sight. And remember, many people become disabled later in life through illness, age, or injury — so this is something that could happen to any of us, at any stage of life.
No one should be pushed aside, made to feel like a burden, or forced into separate spaces just because of a label. We all deserve the same chance to find a loving, compatible spouse, build a family, and belong fully and equally in our communities. 🤲
A genuine question for divorcees/people with kids.
What are people’s expectations when it comes to finances?
As someone with kids I’d be looking to marry someone who also has kids but I find the majority of people still expect men to pay for everything.
Living in the UK is super expensive and providing for 3 kids and paying child maintenance is a lot. So when sisters expect you to provide for everything after marriage is unrealistic in my opinion.
What does everyone think ?
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