Random

I'm going to call out the sister predominantly cuz she's toxic also I want to take the time to explain that this sister weather intentionally or unintentionally as a doctor mentioned does not possess a disability in any shape or form based off of what was presented there was no evidence he had a disability

So this sister asked if if a sister could probably do everything a normal person could do but had a minor disability would you accept her

Well me being autistic I answered that honestly

Her response to an analytical answer that was pure boundary setting was to resort to what's called a low IQ argument or poisoning the well arguments which she said

⁨@william43658⁩ i might be even more active than you .... one of my feet is affected but i have never depended on anyone for anything .i have resilience and endurance much higher than the average.

This is incredibly presumptuous for the only way to even be more active than me is to have a genetic condition similar to mine but is more Superior to mine secondly she says one of her feet is affected but has never depended on anyone for anything that shows radical Independence or as those who in the trauma community like myself like to call it the impossible Independence fact that is something that can easily be destroyed because no matter anyway you slice your dice that you depend on someone or something there is no way around that then said that her endurance and resilience was higher than average that's nothing really special because every athlete has resilience and endurance higher than average

He really wants to impress me try swimming from Ireland to Scotland it's all purpose of every stroke being to support people with cancer oh and doing it with no sleep

But I didn't give her a bit more of my past just to give her an example as to why she needs to be cautious and she called on quote said "⁨@william43658⁩ you need serious mental health screening ...all i can say . Best of luck ."

But then she told another sister that she had a esthetic with one of her feet that made it look not perfect like a normal person's affects her ability to walk a little bit hurts when she stands for too long and prevents her from wearing heels in certain types of shoes

Mind you none of that fits the definition in any part of the world for disability

So again I asked a doctor just to be clear and a doctor even said that based off of what was seen there was no evidence of a disability

Now what's ironic is she attacked me right off the bat because I gave an honest answer based off of analytical based off of preferences created by my very special need for my disabilities

Which date did I pretty much would reject anyone regardless of their disability if it forced me to slow down because I move at a quick pace or made my very strict and rigid schedules unpredictable as that is torture

Now those of you who are autistic will probably be aware that when our schedules become unpredictable or constantly getting thrown off it just isn't a minor discomfort it throws our entire nervous systems out of whack and triggers physical pain

But nowhere and what I said had any indication that I was trying to disappear in any shape or form no I was just stating her question answer to my question that is long as the disability isn't in causing me any types of inconveniences I could accept I said it once I'll say it again there are disabilities that I will not accept right off the bat because those disabilities clash with mine I don't think it's fair to anyone to try to pursue a relationship that is not going to work for either person marriage is supposed to be teamwork and both people are supposed to be doing things to make the other person at ease I cannot be done when one or both people have disabilities that

Also everything that I mentioned in my first comment was very respectful and analytical

I then broke down to her that what she said made absolutely no sense or had anything to do with what I said and then explain to her that it came off narcissistic egomaniacal and potentially unhealed trauma being so long I broke it up into two messages she then told me that I have serious mental health issues and need a screening

Also said she didn't read my bio because if you read my bio at the very bottom and mentions my autism

This is a sister saying that she wants to be accepted for having a minor anesthetic which is not even a disability mind you but completely disrespect someone who she believes have a mental illness which I do as if you check the only way to have been diagnosed with autism at 33 was the actively going to a mental health professional which also says a lot about her character

Interestingly enough the second time I called her out again explain to her even further than what she was doing was narcissistic and then explain to a few other people she didn't actually have a disability she later deleted her post

I'm guessing she discovered that aesthetic and the inability to wear heels due to a foot not looking like a normal person's foot her ability to wear heels and shoes is not classified as a disability

Fun fact I also have feet that are not normal running shoes that actually fit are damn near impossible riding shoes that don't trigger my autism sensory needs is also damn near impossible not to mention in order to prevent pain from being in my roght leg due to my body being lopsided due to scoliosis in a few birth defects I constantly have my right knee bent a bit which I currently cannot do due to the accident causes severe pain in my right leg

My disabilities are packed every aspect of my ability to be normal I can't work any normal job so getting a job at McDonald's is not something that I can do getting a job at any type of entry level work is not something I can do why I'm working on becoming a real estate agent and opening my own business as the blind guy on the field trip to the aquarium said he was denied opportunities because he was blind so he was like f*** it I'm going to work on going into business and then opening my own restaurant and I was like yeah you do that put them discriminate people to shame he said you're the first person to encourage me I encourage them because I don't agree with discriminating against people

Do however agree with rejecting people if you know that they're not a proper fit but what happened with the students that I was on the aquarium with said that everything was based solely on discrimination and actually had nothing to do with the he had a culinary degree yet these restaurants were still refusing him so if he had a degree and then he was able to graduate through the courses required which means he could work in a kitchen without being able to see so it was discrimination

But yeah the sister claimed that she had a disability and asked if people would accept her but when I said something that didn't fit her little mental script she attacked me

Both deleted the post and apparently blocked me

I would show you the part where she said it was aesthetic but before I could get the second picture to show it to you it was us when I went back to it it was already gone in other words I think she blocked me

Yeah here you go

May all of your Arafah and Ashurah duas come true soon.

The two faces of this ho...

Your past already took a lot from you, don’t let it take your future too.

(Note to self)

Sunan Abi Dawud 2117
Narrated Uqbah ibn Amir:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said to a man: Would you like me to marry you to so-and-so?

He said: Yes. He also said to the woman: Would you like me to marry you to so-and-so?

She said: Yes. He then married one to the other. The man had sexual intercourse with her, but he did not fix any dower for her, nor did he give anything to her. He was one of those who participated in the expedition to al-Hudaybiyyah. One part of the expedition to al-Hudaybiyyah had a share in Khaybar.

When he was nearing his death, he said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) married me to so-and-so, and I did not fix a dower for her, nor did I give anything to her. I call upon you as witness that I have given my share in Khaybar as her dower. So she took the share and sold it for one lakh (of dirhams).

Abu Dawud said: The version of 'Umar b. al-Khattab added in the beginning of this tradition, and his version is more perfect. He reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: The best marriage is the one that is most easy. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said to the man. The narrator then transmitted the rest of the tradition to the same effect.

Abu Dawud said: I am afraid this tradition has been added later on, for the matter is otherwise.

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى بْنِ فَارِسٍ الذُّهْلِيُّ، وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى، وَعُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ، - قَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ - حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الأَصْبَغِ الْجَزَرِيُّ عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ يَحْيَى، أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحِيمِ، خَالِدِ بْنِ أَبِي يَزِيدَ عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَبِي أُنَيْسَةَ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ أَبِي حَبِيبٍ، عَنْ مَرْثَدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، عَنْ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لِرَجُلٍ ‏"‏ أَتَرْضَى أَنْ أُزَوِّجَكَ فُلاَنَةَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ نَعَمْ ‏.‏ وَقَالَ لِلْمَرْأَةِ ‏"‏ أَتَرْضِينَ أَنْ أُزَوِّجَكِ فُلاَنًا ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ ‏.‏ فَزَوَّجَ أَحَدُهُمَا صَاحِبَهُ فَدَخَلَ بِهَا الرَّجُلُ وَلَمْ يَفْرِضْ لَهَا صَدَاقًا وَلَمْ يُعْطِهَا شَيْئًا وَكَانَ مِمَّنْ شَهِدَ الْحُدَيْبِيَةَ وَكَانَ مَنْ شَهِدَ الْحُدَيْبِيَةَ لَهُ سَهْمٌ بِخَيْبَرَ فَلَمَّا حَضَرَتْهُ الْوَفَاةُ قَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم زَوَّجَنِي فُلاَنَةَ وَلَمْ أَفْرِضْ لَهَا صَدَاقًا وَلَمْ أُعْطِهَا شَيْئًا وَإِنِّي أُشْهِدُكُمْ أَنِّي أَعْطَيْتُهَا مِنْ صَدَاقِهَا سَهْمِي بِخَيْبَرَ فَأَخَذَتْ سَهْمًا فَبَاعَتْهُ بِمِائَةِ أَلْفٍ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ وَزَادَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ - وَحَدِيثُهُ أَتَمُّ - فِي أَوَّلِ الْحَدِيثِ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ خَيْرُ النِّكَاحِ أَيْسَرُهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ وَقَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لِلرَّجُلِ ثُمَّ سَاقَ مَعْنَاهُ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ يُخَافُ أَنْ يَكُونَ هَذَا الْحَدِيثُ مُلْزَقًا لأَنَّ الأَمْرَ عَلَى غَيْرِ هَذَا ‏.‏
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani) صحيح (الألباني)
Post this on your wall. And also promote it. Lowering Haq Mehr doesn't mean lowering standards.

No man will ever realize how hard is it to wear hijab especially when you dont want to ughhhh Allah help me 🤲🤲

I can understand the disgust and anger regarding the discord creatures.
How comes ya'll wont hold others to the same standards when they show & share classic predatory/misogynist/peado energy in their posts and comments?
Stupid

Now the sun has cooled down and it’s a nice breeze, might go do a little weeding in the garden, seen as I’m the countess 🧛‍♀️

You never know I might find my hubby to be lurking in the weeds 😜

I’ll have to weed him out 😂😎

I was today years old when I learned about “𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗵𝗶𝗷𝗮𝗯 .🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️smh

For those that are struggling to wear the hijab, may Allah make it easy for you.