All things marriage

If you could travel to two places, where would you go, and why?

Hey

sorry this glass red 😊

As an Indian American (born and raised in America) it’s the realization that I feel like a lot of Pakistanis (in general not specific people) as a whole think they’re better than Indian Muslims.

Wallahi I’m not trying to create fitnah, but some of these Pakistanis genuinely think Indians are all Hindus- it’s strange. Like they all think they’re the best looking people, and shocked when they realize we speak Urdu as well ( Urdu is originally from Lucknow).

In any case these are just some shower thoughts.

Maybe this is just frustration from the fact that I’m actively being ghosted by a Pakistani girl on this app, and it’s frustrating me because I genuinely found her attractive (not to say that I haven’t matched with Pakistanis in the past and they haven’t been attracted to me- which they have)

In any case, as they say, Pakistani for life my cousin is my wife. 😭

Also I’m just joking on this post, I have family that is Pakistani, we’re all desi here. Loll

I am honestly super worried and scared of marrying the wrong person.

The fear of my future partner not reciprocating love kills me everyday. I really can’t with these gender wars either. I don’t really understand why people, regardless of their gender, accept advise and take accountability for their deeds. Its scary to see so many women turn masculine.

Everything is scary. Loyalty, Respect and calmness is being expected but seldom being shown by some women of these days. The prophet (saw) asked the ummah to marry the woman that brings peace to the heart, and really thats what I am seeking too. But where is such kind of a woman? Me being in a western country makes it even worse as to how I would approach women that are upon their deen.
My type of a woman would run far away with just the sound of a man, So how am I supposed to even begin to initiate marriage talks? Local Masjid? Yea, Didn’t work. All of em are arabs who want to marry only from their ethnicity and thats their preference.

And the amount of women with serious mental health disorders makes it that times more difficult to trust anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I would gladly suffer for what I love, But why should my future children get affected? But they mask it so well, That it stays unnoticed for months. Who can I trust at this point?

The women I meet say they want love (as they should) , What about me? Am I not human? Am I a robot? Where is that love for me? It hurts every damn bit the same as it would for you. The lack of selflessness is just showing. I grew up watching how my parents and relatives showed love to each other, Is it possible to even expect that kind of love in the society that we live in today?

And fairly, Expecting someone to not have a physical past is something wrong? Then am I a donkey to have waited 27 years to be with my soulmate??? The double standards are grilling me upside down.

I hit the gym like a madman nowadays, Thats the only source of relief I get apart from constant dhikr and nafl salahs. It honestly is affecting me, in all sorts of ways.

I am sorry if I hurt anyone’s feelings or if it reminded of any trauma that any of y’all have been through. I was at a low place and I needed this since a long time.

But I still have hopes, Allah swt will never leave his servant without guidance and help. Allah swt’s help is always near. All I can really do now is have tawakkul and hope my soulmate will soon be revealed to me.

Every market has it days and everyday has it's market. 💡

What is the reason for the reluctance to marry in Algeria? Is it due to Algerian girls and their recklessness, or to the state officials for failing to enact laws to rectify the disastrous situation?

Idk if it’s just me, but I can tell how conceited someone is on this app, dependent on their pictures in their profile (how they dress, pose, etc). I can tell when someone thinks they’re all that because they might be somewhat physically attractive or not, I feel like I can tell a lot from their pictures

Asalamualaikum! Hope you're doing good 😊