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Somewhere along the way, we’ve confused self-respect with passivity and pursuit with proving your worth. We’re told to market ourselves, compete for attention, and convince someone to choose us. I don’t believe marriage was ever meant to begin with a negotiation for affection.
I have no issue with making my intentions known through halal means. But beyond that, I don’t think anyone should have to convince another person to choose them. Interest should be met with interest, effort with effort, and intention with intention. If you’re constantly left wondering where you stand or carrying the weight of keeping a connection alive, that’s an answer in itself.
I won’t ever chase someone into seeing my value. If a man wants to build a life with me, I believe he should have the conviction to step forward with intention. My job isn’t to persuade him; it’s to recognize sincerity when it arrives and aligns with my own.
There’s a difference between opening a door and running after someone who’s already walking away. One protects your dignity. The other slowly bargains it away. I don’t want a marriage that begins with one person trying to earn the other’s certainty. I want one that begins with two people who have already decided they’re willing to choose each other. 😮💨😐
Why are there men in Islam who genuinely make wanting four wives their personality? They say that it’s mandatory for them to have four wives? There’s no way I would get married to someone who wants to share his body with three other women. In sha Allah we all get what we want in this dunya and akhira Amiin Amiin
It's Friday 🕋 May God bless us with peace, good health, endless joy, and favor today and throughout the coming week. May every door of opportunity open for us, and may our hearts be filled with hope. Have a blessed Friday! 🙏❤️
Dating apps didn’t modernize relationships. They industrialized them.
They took one of the most meaningful decisions a human being can make—choosing a spouse—and reduced it to a left swipe, a right swipe, and a dopamine hit.
You aren’t meeting a person anymore.
You’re shopping.
A face.
A bio.
Three pictures.
Five seconds.
Next.
We’ve accepted a system that rewards impulsiveness over character, appearance over values, and endless options over commitment.
And then there’s this app that markets itself as “Islamic.”
Islam didn’t teach us to scroll through hundreds of strangers.
Islam didn’t teach men and women to spend weeks chatting privately, building emotional attachment before families are even involved.
Islam didn’t replace modesty with direct messages.
Putting an Islamic logo on a dating app doesn’t suddenly make the process Islamic.
Calling something “halal” doesn’t make it halal if it ignores the principles that were meant to protect our hearts, intentions, and dignity.
Marriage was never supposed to become another social media experience.
We’ve become so used to this system that we’ve stopped asking a simple question:
If this process is so close to Islamic values, why would previous generations of Muslims not even recognize it?
Technology should solve problems—not redefine morality.
Not everything that is convenient is good.
Not everything that is popular is right.
Some things deserve more dignity than a like button.
Marriage is one of them.
Ashura reminds me that Allah's timing is always perfect. What seems delayed to us may simply be Allah preparing something better. May He accept our duas and grant us what is best for our dunya and akhirah. Ameen.
24-35 generation is cooked. Women think they're a prize and don't compromise. I can't speak on behalf of women. My experience with women and 2026 dating is they have zero emotional resilience, don't work through problems, rather than strive for marriage, they strive for finding a reason to not commit to the person. Avoidants everywhere, actions show they're scared to get married, but worst thing of of all? They talk and pretend like they are looking for marriage before you realise they're a waste of time