All things marriage

Good morning everyone

Are u okey with 50/50 ? If yes Why ? If no also why

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The marriage market right now is a complete psychological test. 🫠

​Every time I post my profile, my inbox explodes. But let’s be real, 70% of people are just window shopping. They ask for a picture or biodata and instantly ghost. The remaining 30% drag you into an endless interrogation, but the conversation never actually moves forward.

​It is wild how incredibly difficult getting married has become. The number of singles over 30 is going parabolic, and with divorce and Khula rates skyrocketing, it feels like our society is going through a massive, broken shift. Sometimes the whole process feels so cheap and transactional that I just want to call it a "marriage scam" and quit.

Hiiii I just joined today

I'm here with the sincere intention of finding a life partner for marriage. I value honesty, kindness, respect, and strong family values, and I believe a successful marriage is built on trust, communication, and mutual support. I'm looking for someone who is genuinely ready to build a loving, faith-centered relationship, grow together through life's journey, and create a peaceful and happy home, In shaa Allah.

Assalamualaikum ,
I hope you are doing well.
I am 40 years old, living in Riyadh, working here. I am a simple, honest man. No smoking, no drinking. I am looking for a serious, halal relationship for Nikah with Allah’s permission.
If you are also serious about marriage and your wali/family is involved, we can talk respectfully and get to know each other.
JazakAllah Khair.

We must acknowledge that there are real family and other problems due to which both men and women can't involve family.

I see Muslim families who get along and laugh together and enjoy parties and picnic and truly they're enjoying life, but sometimes some families have toxic parents and elders who pit against eachother and sometimes even among their own children.

Single men are automatically seen as potentially bad people by our society. Until they see a guy with family he's automatically considered as the problem. Societies works on assumptions and majority will. Very few people care to know the truth or examine things carefully. As a result some good men and women are left out scraps to choose from or nothing at all.

People with healthy families and relatives can't understand this problem. To them its something they'd rather ignore and move on to enjoy their parties and get-togethers. They just can't understand how gaslighting and toxic some parents and family members can be, you'd question yourself for years before you finally understand the problem was them and not you.

Some family members prefer you to remain single and just send money than you actually get married. It could be that the father marries another woman and has children from new marriage and his new wife would want the inheritance go to her children over children from previous marriages. Many more situations happen where our own people hurt us so much than strangers ever could.

So therefore I suggest to such men and women to come forward to be bold in their approach and find suitable partners for themselves. Forget parents and elders or society in general. They dont care anyways, form your own solution to your unique problem. Live for yourself. Marry someone who has seen and felt this pain and you two can be eachothers sanctuary.

If you're from such a toxic family, I ask people in these situations to become bold and fight off the narcissistic family and breakfree. The world will judge you regardless, better to live on your own terms than to live under someone's idea of how you should be living. Come forward and let the world know as to why you're doing what you're doing. @$$&0!€$ will always judge, they won't help but they're ready to judge.

Asking for a sister.

She's pursuing a brother for marriage who is really kind and generous or as it seems. They are planning to get married. Although everytime they have a disagreement, he calls her disrespectful and shuts off, ignores her, blocks her, gives her silent treatment. She doesn't know whether she's coming or going. As soon as she stops chasing him and gives up, he will reappear apologising and wanting to mend the relationship. This happens way too often. I personally told her it's a red flag but she is so attached to him and really cares about him.

A dating profile without a bio is basically a job application that says:

“Name: Available
Experience: Unknown
Skills: Ask me later
About me: 🤷‍♂️”

Then we wonder why nobody is interested 😅

A few honest lines about yourself can tell more than 10 perfect photos.

Because people don’t connect with a profile… they connect with a person.