All things marriage

Jummah Mubarak to everyone
Du’a for Today
Ya Allah I'm putting my whole life in your hands now, I don't know what's good for me and I don't know where life is taking me. I'm letting go, I surrender to qadr. I trust you to take care of everything.

Ya Allah
guide my steps today and keep me on the
path that pleases You.
Be with me in every decision I make, every place
I go, and every challenge I face.
Grant me wisdom, protect me from harm,
bless my efforts, and fill my heart with peace
and trust in You.
Let every step I take bring me closer to Your
mercy, guidance, and blessings.
Ameen Ya’Rabil’Alameen

I’ve been wondering why some of you are hesitant to marry!! Halal isn’t confusing, commitment with a positive and an open minded person doesn't need to rethink, and lots lots of attributes that might be attractive to support and live with that partner in a positive environment, is that because you dont know who to choose ? or is it fear of change

Salaams all. I just wanted to address something.

I have been on jamaa for around 3/4 weeks now. Prior to this I'd never looked at the social side, and I have to say I'm pretty disgusted. Ive come across several "men" on here who think it's acceptable to attack women or berate them - because they're uneducated and misinformed and THINK those of us who are over the age of 30 are not fertile. Since I work in maternity and know so many women who have struggled I feel it's only right that I make this post. There are several points to put forth here so bare with me.

Firstly WHO gave you superhuman ability to be able to determine if a woman is fertile or not, without first having gone through several medical tests? Which FYI costs grands. Which most people don't have spare in this current climate. Also these men are the same culprits who belittle working women..... So who's gonna pay for these tests then if they shouldn't work and haven't got a husband to provide for them, because men need answers prior to marriage and apparently only look at the ability to bare children hmmm? Have you done a sperm analysis on yourself? No........ Okay then.

Secondly, fertility is a medical condition. no one asks to be infertile and there are so many things that affect it INCLUDING YOUR SPERM. Would you question someone who has a tumour... Would you blame them for what their body has created, what Allah has planned for them? No. So why and how dare you do the same for women who have struggled with this issue for years. And before anyone brings age into it, sit down and shut up because there are thousands of women in their early 20s who are struggling. Who eat clean, exercise, take this vitamin and that hormone shot. And still struggle.

Did the prophets and their wives not struggle with fertility... Was it their fault too?

THIRDLY, womens health has not been studied anywhere near the level that men's health has therefore we are already disadvantaged here. Didn't realise any of you were fertility specialists that you feel the need to bark at women you don't know about their fertility. And what's even funnier is half of these women you spurt this rubbish to already have kids. And you come out with all this nonsense in discussions that have nothing to do with children.

My last point today but certainly not the end of this topic... You have no idea who is reading your comments. There's probably so many women reading this who are already heart broken from trying everything to make bearing children a possibility and it hasn't happened. You as a man may want a child but I can tell you now that desire is faaaaaar greater for most women. A desire you will never understand.

So be a decent human being. Get down off your high horse and learn to have some respect and empathy. You are not above anyone and karma will find you in this life or the next I assure you. Not being funny but if you fell in love, got married and for whatever reason couldn't have children are you just gonna abandon your wife? If you had a daughter and she came to you distraught because she cannot have children, are you gonna tell her it's her fault as well? I didn't think so.

Rant over. Get a grip.

Finding a compatible spouse is quite a challenge these days 🫠

Let me guess.

He texted you every day.
Called you late at night.
Made you feel like you mattered.

He treated you like a wife…
until it was time to actually be one.

Then suddenly he was “not ready.” “Confused.” “Needed time.”

And now you’re sitting there replaying everything, wondering where it went wrong.

But here’s the part people rarely say,

When someone gives you relationship energy without relationship commitment, it creates emotional attachment. Your brain registers closeness, consistency, and attention as bonding. So when they pull away, it feels like withdrawal.

You didn’t imagine the connection. You responded to the signals you were given.

But someone enjoying your presence
without being willing to choose you
isn’t confusion.

It’s convenience.

And healing begins when you stop blaming yourself for believing what their actions were designed to make you feel.

Why does someone send a like and then unmatch it when you accept it? Do you have schizophrenia?

Never give up keep trying to
Find a match

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