All things marriage

If you’re not in a position to choose for yourself, If your parents will decide based on color, sect, body shape, money, job, status etc or "log kya kahenge".

Then please don’t talk about future. Don’t give fake compliment, don't say I love you etc.
Don’t make someone build dreams with you.

Don’t give false hope just to feed your ego.
Because "sorry my family didn’t agree" after months of emotional investment.
that apology doesn’t heal the insecurity, anxiety attacks.

It doesn’t undo the lies someone is telling to his/her family for you.

If you can’t stand up for the person you chose, then don’t choose anyone at all.

Marriage isn’t a family approval show. It’s amanah. It’s responsibility.

To every girl/boy reading this:
The right person won’t make you perform for his family. He’ll make his family respect you.

When Abu Salama died, Umm Salama (raḍiya Allāhu ‘anhā) was certain no Muslim could ever replace him. He had been the first of her family to migrate to the Prophet ﷺ, a veteran of Badr, a man she loved deeply. Then she recited a short dua the Prophet ﷺ had taught her, ten words long, asking Allah to compensate her for her loss and replace it with something better. Allah replaced Abu Salama with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ himself. That dua is Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khairan minha, and this guide walks through its Arabic, transliteration, word-by-word meaning, hadith grade, Quranic anchor, and the scholarly disagreement on its pronunciation.

https://islamtics.com/allahumma-ajirni-fi-musibati-wa-akhlif-khairan-minha-dua/

I wanna share with you guys. I matched with a man, he never said about s*x and he was so polite, encourage to do something good but at the end he is a scammer. He said his name is Amry Aseen. I found it several days ago. He said he works in construction company, he is from Saudi but since his parents died because of the car accident he moved to UK with his uncle. His uncle died several years ago. Long story short, he told me that he will go to Turkiye for a business trip and he will come to Indonesia to meet me and talk more about marriage. He said that he packed 2 medium luggages to Indonesia and sent it to my place because he wanted to make it simple, he said he didn't want to bring a large luggage or luggages during his business trip. He sent me the invoice etc, i tried to open the web and its seems so real if i submitted the reference number for tracking. He usee Jetwave Logistics.
One day, the expedition texted me on whatsapp said that me as a receiver should pay the clearance fee for $1300 but its the strange thing, i should transfer to a personal bank account. When i confirmed to the person that i matched, he said he just trust the expedition company. He said that he will give back the money after we meet later. He is using UK number and the expedition using US number, but the bank account is an Indonesian. I checked to the google maps, there's no company named Jetwave Logistics. Kindly see the photo of the person (i don't know he is real or not but he sent me his photo)

From my experience match with this kind of person, please be careful:

1. If he seems to be a good person, don't trust him if he asks money to you.
2. Check from the google maps and don't believe just from the google because they make a proper website. If there's a website, recheck again in gmaps or anything.
3. If he send you the bank account, don't trust it if you see like on the photo i attach, its just a dummy because i searched it

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DMs

Do I have to respond ?

Are they always meant as a show of interest ?

I have 4 unanswered

I don’t mean any disrespect but one has advise, I read it and that’s it (without accepting/ dismissing)
The other 3 r random Hi or so on

Otherwise,

I had two potentials and matchings from marriage side

Spoke, things fell off - unmatched

That’s it, I don’t just chat !

On marriage side - compliment seems more like (needs to be answered)

DMs ??