All things marriage

The opening is there shoot your shot .

Good communication and being on the same frequency are better than forcing ourselves to receive all things

Some stats regarding down syndrome:
20 year old female giving birth has 1 in 2000 risk of having a child with down syndrome

• -21 year old: 1 in 1700
• -22 year old: 1 in 1500
• -25 year old: 1 in 1200
  -28 year old: 1 in 1000
  -32 year old: 1 in 720
  -34 year old: 1 in 450
• -38 year old: 1 in 200
• -40 year old: 1 in 100
  -43 year old: 1 in 50
  -49 year old: 1 in 10

Moral of the stats:
Get married early
If you find the right male do not dismiss him for minor issues
If you want a child and you are over 40 then i highly recommend ivf so they get you the right egg to prevent disease in your child

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So, I just want to ask the girls, have any of you found a kind and serious person here?

Hi, I'm here with serious intentions, hoping to meet someone kind, honest, and ready for a meaningful relationship. 🤍

Sunnis, how do you reconcile these verses with Bukhari? I'd like reasonable, logical explainations. If what you say is truth from God, then maybe it should be explained better. I automatically consider emotional responses, and name calling default for you can't answer.

5:3
“…Today I have perfected for you your religion, completed My favor upon you, and have approved for you Islam as your religion…”

6:114
“Then is it other than Allah I should seek as judge while it is He who has revealed to you the Book explained in detail? And those to whom We gave the Scripture know that it has been sent down from your Lord in truth, so never be among the doubters.”

6:115
“The Word of your Lord has been perfected in truth and justice. None can change His words. And He is the All-Hearing, All-Knowing.”

12:111
“There was certainly in their stories a lesson for those of understanding. It is not a narration invented, but a confirmation of what came before it, a detailed explanation of all things, and guidance and mercy for a people who believe.”

16:89
“…And We have sent down to you the Book as clarification of all things, and as guidance and mercy and good tidings for the Muslims.”

18:54
“And We have certainly diversified in this Qur’an for the people every kind of example, but man has ever been, most of anything, prone to dispute.”

39:27
“And We have certainly presented for the people in this Qur’an every kind of example that they might take heed.”

41:3
“A Book whose verses have been explained in detail, an Arabic Qur’an for a people who know.”

41:53
“We will show them Our signs in the horizons and within themselves until it becomes clear to them that it is the truth. Is it not enough that your Lord is Witness over all things?”

15:9
"It is certainly We Who have revealed the Reminder, and it is certainly We Who will preserve it. "

In my understanding, the men who seem most obsessed with authority are often the ones who are furthest from true leadership.

From what I’ve seen, that mindset usually comes from one or more of these:
• Cultural influence rather than authentic Islamic teachings.
• Misunderstanding what Islamic leadership actually means.
• Selectively interpreting religious texts while overlooking the responsibilities and accountability that come with them.
• Family upbringing and what was modeled at home.
• And the most common one! Insecurity or a desire for control. Some men, regardless of religion, equate leadership with control because it makes them feel secure or validated.

I’m curious because people on here often use the word authority, but everyone seems to define it differently. Some see it as responsibility, others as leadership, and others as control.

So, how do you define authority in marriage, and why?