All things marriage

Hoping to find my naseeb, inshaAllah.🤲🏻💍

things I personally think are way more important to vet than a man’s bank account or job:

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  his social media following and comment history (does he follow a lot of women? Does he have red pill tendencies or argue incessantly with women on the internet?)

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  his credit score (financial responsibility >>> any arbitrary dollar amount in his bank account)

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  how he speaks of people he dislikes or disagrees with

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  how he treats custodial staff, waiters, etc.

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  how he treats animals

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  how his parents talk to each other

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  how he acts when you tell him “no” or set a boundary with him. Does he get angry? Does he get defensive? Does he push boundaries?

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  how does he handle anger/frustration? What’s he like when life doesn’t go his way? We all feel these emotions but what’s important is that we don’t take them out on innocent people.

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  if he has free time, how does he choose to spend it?

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  Does he take care of himself? Eat right, exercise, etc? It’s not about how he looks, it’s about having discipline and taking care of the body Allah swt gave you.

Add more if you think of any. And feel free to disagree but be respectful

I no one day God will answer my pray 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 to give me my own love 💕😘😘

📢 Ladies & Gentlemen.....take note! 📝

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If anyone is triggered, you need to work on yourself. Healing. Therapy.

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Walking on my ones as usual, if I had a wife, we would be skipping with joy arm in arm through the park!

I get the pressure men go through, especially around providing, stability, and trying to be enough.

But I also think we rarely stop to understand the pressure on the other side. Women deal with a different kind of weight that isn’t always visible to us. Emotional labor, expectations around patience, looks, family roles, and often being the one who holds a lot of the emotional balance in the relationship. On top of that, there’s constant pressure around appearance and aging, where value can feel tied to how they look more than who they are.

A lot of women also deal with safety concerns that men don’t experience in the same way, whether it’s walking alone, growing up, or even just being overly careful in everyday interactions. That shapes how they move through the world in a way that’s easy for men to overlook.

Then there’s the family and social layer. Expectations around being a good daughter, good wife, and good mother often overlap and conflict. Many end up carrying most of the childcare load, mental planning of the household, and maintaining relationships with extended family, even when they’re also working full time. And emotionally, many are expected to be patient, understanding, and accommodating, even when they’re stressed or unsupported themselves. When they express frustration, it’s often judged more harshly than when men do.

Sometimes we assume our struggle is heavier just because it’s the one we personally feel most. But both sides are carrying pressure, just in different forms, and both can feel overwhelming in their own way.

We’re also living in a time where expectations aren’t aligned. Many men still feel judged by traditional standards like provision and stability, while trying to adjust to a modern world where emotional intelligence, communication, and partnership matter just as much. At the same time, women aren’t living in the same world their mothers or grandmothers did. Many no longer want a relationship where providing financially automatically means having unquestioned authority. They want partnership, respect, and a voice in the relationship. Whether you agree with every expectation or not, that’s the reality many people are navigating.

The fix is simple: don’t compare who has it worse and work on yourself before looking to fulfill the role of being a partner. If a stranger’s opinion on the internet immediately upsets you, ask yourself why. Sometimes our triggers reveal insecurities or areas where we still need to grow. Instead of reacting emotionally, use that feeling as feedback. Heal, improve, and move forward.

Idnt like fake ppl in my life

Why is everyone on here so weird like you match but when I text you unmatch like what is wrong with people this app is just **** can’t even find someone right.