All things marriage

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Big day coming soon 26 Jun🇸🇴

I think its very difficult to find a perfect spouse

My experience on a marriage app
a reminder to be careful

I want to share my experience because I believe someone else may avoid a painful situation by reading this.

Last year around April, I received a marriage request from a man living Canada (his parents are srilankan he’s born in Canada reverted Muslim). His profile looked genuine, and after checking his background and having conversations, I accepted. Very early on, he wanted to involve both families, which made me feel that he was serious. Both sides communicated, and even some of his relatives visited my family. At that point, I believed this was moving in a genuine direction.

I was working and also continuing my studies because education and my career are important to me. Slowly, things started changing.

He began asking me to stop working, reduce my studies, and change parts of my life before marriage. He also wanted me to make major decisions before we were even married.

I told him I needed time because marriage is a life decision, and trust has to be built properly. But instead of understanding, he would make me feel guilty, saying things like, “After involving families, don’t you trust me?”

I made the mistake of compromising some things because I wanted to make it work. Later, I realized that someone who truly cares about you will not try to remove your independence before marriage.

Another major issue came when he revealed his expectations about having multiple wives. This was something I had clearly said from the beginning that I was not comfortable with. I believe everyone has the right to their own views, but marriage requires honesty and compatibility from the start.

When I questioned this, he tried to justify it in different ways. I explained that religious matters should not be approached only from personal desires, and that important decisions like marriage need responsibility, fairness, and mutual agreement.

I told him if someone genuinely wants that type of marriage, they should be honest and seek someone who is comfortable with it not enter a relationship with someone who has clearly said they do not want it and then try to change them.

At this point, I started seeing many red flags. I also discovered he was communicating with other women during the same period. Another woman contacted me and showed me conversations that followed a similar pattern.

That was a turning point for me.

Even after I tried to end things, he kept saying he wanted only me and promised he would change. Because families were already involved, I gave another chance, hoping things would improve.

But later I realized the same patterns continued. I felt emotionally exhausted and confused because I had invested time, emotions, and trust into something I thought was serious.

It took me months to recover emotionally because I kept thinking: “Why did I compromise so much for someone I was not even married to?”

The biggest lessons I learned:

• Family involvement does not always guarantee someone’s character.
• Someone can talk about marriage seriously and still not have genuine intentions.
• Never sacrifice your education, career, independence, or values for someone before marriage.
• Pay attention to actions, not only words.
• If someone’s expectations do not match yours, don’t ignore it hoping they will change.

I’m not sharing this to attack anyone. I’m sharing this because marriage apps can connect good people, but they can also have people who know how to appear serious.

Please take your time. Protect your peace, your future, and your self-respect.

May Allah guide everyone to the right person and protect us from wrong choices. Ameen.

Have you ever seen a profile and thought that they were out of your league, but you liked it anyway. And then they like you back...

Don't worry, it's a crypto scammer

So many people who love you. Don't focus on the people who don't.

You liked my profile. I liked yours back and we match. Then when I send Salams you unmatch.... What is going on here? Why like my profile in the first place?!
Edit: If you are not in the US, don't send a chat request.

By joining this app I was thinking about love but after joining I saw that here it's just interess who machine people love are dead 😪😪😪

Good morning
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