I am 23 years old, and my biodata is currently being circulated for marriage proposals. However, I’ve noticed that several families have declined the proposal because they feel I am “too young” or “too small” in age. This has happened even for girls who are 20, 21, 22, 23, and even 24 years old.

I am trying to understand why age alone becomes such a major concern. Do parents automatically assume that because I am 23, I am not mature enough to take on the responsibilities of marriage? Do they believe that I lack the emotional maturity, financial stability, or life experience required to lead a family, even without getting to know me personally?

What confuses me is that they seem to make this judgment solely based on my age, rather than considering my personality, responsibilities, career, family values, or future plans. I want to know whether this is a common mindset among parents, especially in arranged marriages, or if there are other factors that influence this perception.

I also believe that marriage is a journey where both husband and wife grow together. No one is born knowing how to manage every responsibility perfectly. With mutual support, patience, understanding, and communication, both partners learn, mature, and build a stable life together over time.

At the same time, I believe that families should prepare both their sons and daughters for marriage by teaching them important life skills, including financial responsibility. Living within one’s means, avoiding unnecessary expenses, budgeting wisely, and supporting each other financially are qualities that strengthen a marriage. Marriage is a partnership where both husband and wife should contribute towards building a secure and balanced future together.

I would like to understand why many families associate being 23 years old with being immature or incapable of handling marriage, despite the fact that maturity varies from person to person and cannot be determined by age alone.