The 40s

A question I've been thinking about lately.

When two people start considering marriage through an app, what helps them develop genuine trust?

Some people prefer to talk online for months. Others believe that meeting in a safe public place can help them understand each other more naturally.

Both approaches have their reasons, and everyone's comfort level is different.

But if the intention is serious marriage, wouldn't an honest face-to-face conversation help two people decide whether they are truly compatible?

We can discuss important things online, but sometimes the way we listen, respond, and communicate matters just as much as what we say.

How much time should two people spend getting to know each other before deciding whether to move forward with marriage?

Let's hear your thoughts.

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From a brother

As salaam alaykum ww Abu Sheikh

Any man or woman who is 50 and above should understand that they have already lived half of a man's lifespan. At this stage, you have seen enough to know that life is not only about excitement, attraction or just having someone around you. Peace of mind should also be a luxury.

So, whoever is coming into your life for a relationship at this stage should come with the virtue of peace. They should not come to compete with you, manipulate or disturb your mind or turn every little disagreement into something puzzling.

You have lived long enough to understand that unnecessary drama is not and will never be a sign of love. Not that you are like the tumbling wave of a sea, but at that phase, you should be more interested in someone who brings calmness to your life.

Someone you can sit with and breathe freely. Someone whose presence does not question your worth. I understand, no one is perfect and peace does not mean the absence of problems. But having someone who knows how to handle problems instead of skyrocketing it can give you sanity.

At this stage of life, you need companionship, understanding, friendship, respect, laughter, and emotional safety. When you reach a certain age, you must understand that not everybody who enters your life has something valuable to offer.

Some people come with beauty but no peace. Some come with money but no kindness. Some come with attraction but no emotional maturity.

You have spent many years to learn, build and survived a lot of things, so living a life of peace is not too much to ask for. Whoever comes into your life at that stage should make the journey easy, not complicated. So, choose wisely.

What are your expectations regarding sharing household chores?

Are you conscient that 40s is your best period of your life so far?

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What was the best advice you got in life?
That you realize now was a big blessing in life.