Psychology & Neurodiversity

Remember; Escape from this loop 🦅

If I wanted to play it dirty, I can.
I can create dependency, then cut the strings if they don’t comply. That’s one of the ways control works

But it’s not a technique I use, although I know damn well I have all the power to do it.

If I do something, I execute it cleanly.
No manipulation.
No power play.
And I don’t need any transactional benefit.

To be honest, no man is too busy for a woman he truly considers important...

No matter how busy he is, he will always find a way for something that is his priority...

So, if you are constantly given the excuse of being "busy", maybe the problem is not that he doesn't have time. It might be that you are not on the top of the list that he wants to fight for... To be honest, you are not his priority...

Leadership is not based on gender.

People tend to think leaders are people whom you submit to but that’s further from the truth.

Nobody is born a leader. It is a skill that has to be forged from the time you are born, for both men and women.

Leadership qualities begin with leading yourself: your life direction, your decisions, your behaviour, and what you want to achieve by the time you reach your death.

To be a leader, you have to speak up, built your own resources, draw a line, understand where you stand on the chessboard, and never compromise on what you want, who you are, or what you are willing to do.

One of the main mistakes I see poor leaders make is their inability to regulate their emotions.

They snap. They demand. They feel entitled. They diminish people. They throw someone under the bus. Or they use someone else to regulate their emotions instead of regulating themselves.

Let’s define what a leader actually is, because people tend to think leaders are people whom you submit to. They mistake stupidity for leadership.

Apparently, poor leaders think your free will goes out the window and you their subordinate.

No. That’s not a leader.

If someone expects obedience, submission, or insists that you must do things their way ( when it comes to you ) or face the consequences, that’s a hostage situation and you’re their slave.

There are two types of leaders:

One is a designated leader, where an official title gives them authority over a particular role, organisation, team or institution.

The other is a leader by influence, without any official title, where people voluntarily choose to follow their direction because they trust your judgement, character and competence.

This type of leader doesn’t require people to submit to them. It is a type of leadership that comes from integrity, honour and wisdom.

And no, it’s not exclusively for men.

Women have the exact same capacity to embody both kind of leadership if they choose to.

Ya Allah, if it is truly good for me, please grant it to me. My heart and mind are tired of overthinking. I surrender it all to u. please give me peace, strength, and whatever is truly best for me.

Good morning ! 😀

Every day I see another anonymously posted story on here that follows almost the same script.
A man likes a woman, she likes him back, they match.

The conversation starts beautifully.
He’s charming, he’s funny, they exchange stories, have a good laugh, and she starts thinking...
“Hmm… could this actually be the one ?”

And then comes the plot twist...
Suddenly, Mr Charming sends an unsolicited dikkk pic. Or wants to see her landing strip, legs akimbo in return whilst she talks durrrty to him, Or skips several chapters of getting to know each other and suggests meeting at a hotel for some enthusiastic amateur kamasutra readings.

So I have to ask…
Are these scams becoming more sophisticated, exploitative, and harder to spot,
or have some women become so desperate for connection that they’re overlooking the warning signs and making themselves vulnerable to men who were never looking for a genuine relationship in the first place ?

Are we getting better at spotting the red flags, or have we simply become very good at explaining them away when we really want someone to be the person we hoped they were ?

Ladies, what do you think ?
And gentlemen… are you going to tell us what’s really going on here ? 👀

No matter how you feel, get up and keep going. Never give up.

When he has way too many girls in his following list 💩 and still wonders why that’s one of my red flags 🧔🏻🚩

And honestly, this doesn’t only apply to men. If a woman’s following list is full of men, people will probably make the same assumptions too 😏 It’s not about being controlling sometimes your social media habits already say a lot about your boundaries, attention, and lifestyle.

Marriages in which the wife earns more than the husband have become increasingly common in the United States, rising from about 5% of married couples in 1972 to roughly 16% today.
The trend is likely to continue as young women outnumber men in universities and increasingly dominate many professional occupations.
Female-breadwinner couples remain more likely to separate than other couples across a wide range of developed countries.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/female-breadwinner-couples-are-still-more-likely-to-split-up