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If a Muslim woman comes to know of a man who has good character and deen and would make a good husband,

there is absolutely nothing wrong with approaching him in an honorable way with a marriage proposal.

Some ways that she could do this would be to ask her parents to approach his parents;

or to send a message through someone who knows him (for example his sister, aunt, cousin, etc) that she is interested, in order to learn if he also might be interested.

She can also approach him directly and raise the subject, as long as she follows Islamic rules of etiquette (meeting in public, having a chaperone, no flirtatious or sexual speech, lowering the gaze, etc).

This may be seen as improper or brazen in some cultures.

But that is a cultural attitude, not an Islamic one.

Let us look to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam) as our example, since the Quran says,

“There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah ….

…. and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.” (33:21)

First of all,

He accepted a proposal from a woman, Khadijah (RA), who became His wife.

Khadijah was impressed with the personality of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) & she wanted to marry Him.

So she sent her friend Nafeesah bint Maniyyah to tell the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about that.

He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) agreed, and the marriage of Khadijah (may Allaah be pleased with her) was arranged by her father Khuwaylid,

according to the most sound reports, as mentioned by the scholars of seerah.

With regard to the idea of a Muslim woman offering herself in marriage to a righteous man, that does not contradict the idea of modesty,

so long as he is trustworthy with regard to his religious commitment and moral attitude.

It was narrated that Thaabit al Banaani said:

I was with Anas ibn Maalik and a daughter of his was with him.

He said:

“A woman came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and offered herself in marriage to Him.

She said:

‘O Messenger of Allaah, do you want to marry me?’”

The daughter of Anas said: “How little was her modesty.

How shameless, how shameless!” Anas said:

“She was better than you; she had a liking for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) so she offered herself in marriage to Him.”

📚📖Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4848.📚📖

This Hadith indicate that it is permissible for a woman to offer herself in marriage to a man, and to let him know that she has a liking for him, and there is nothing wrong with her doing so. And the one to whom a woman offers herself in marriage has the choice of either….

accepting or refusing, but he does not have to express his refusal outright, rather it is sufficient for him to remain silent.

Beneficial Advice For Women Who Are Already Married and To Those About To Be Married.

Following is an advice to every Muslim woman that contains matters to avoid in order to have a good marriage.

Tip📌

1. Avoid angering your husband.

☝️The Prophet PBUH mentioned that among the three that Allah does not accept their prayer are,

“A wife who goes to sleep while her husband is angry with her.”

📖📚 [At-Tirmithi].📖📚

2. Avoid harming your husband in any way,

“If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her:

‘Do not harm him, may Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us.‘

📖📚[Ahmad & At-Tirmithi].📖📚

3.Avoid being unappreciative or unthankful to your husband, “Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her.”

📖📚[An-Nasaii].📖📚

4 . Do not ask your husband for divorce for no reason.

☝️ The Prophet PBUH warned women who ask for divorce for no sound reason in his Hadith,

“Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise.

📚📖 [Sahih Al-Jamii].📚📖

5. Do not obey your husband if he asks you to do prohibited matters, “Do not disobey the Creator to obey any human.”

📚📖[Ahmad & Al-Hakim].📚📖

6. Avoid voluntary fasting without your husband’s permission, unless he is absent,

“A woman does (must) not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadhan.”

📚📖 [Al-Bukhari & Muslim].📚📖

This Hadith emphasizes the importance of the wife satisfying her husbands sexual needs.

If the husband agrees, then the wife can do volunteer fasting, satisfied that she fulfilled her obligation towards ber husband.

7 .It is a major sin to deny your husband sexual pleasure.

☝️ The Prophet PBUH said,

what translated means,

“If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angles will curse her till the morning.”

📖📚 [Muslim].📖📚

8. It is a major sin for husbands and wives to tell others what they do in bed.

☝️The Prophet described the ones who do that as,

“A devil who meets a fe ale devil and has intercourse with her in public”

📚📖 [Ahmad].📚📖

9 . The Prophet PBUH ordered every Muslim woman not to let anyone into their houses, “Unless he (her husband) gives her permission.”

📚📖 [Al-Bukhari].📚📖

10 . Muslim women do not have the habit of going in and out of their houses without necessity. Allah SWT said, what translated means, “And stay in your houses”
Q [33:33].

The greatest peace comes the moment...
you stop trying to control everything...
and start trusting Allah with everything.

May the day come when I return to Makkah and Madinah with the person I hold dear, and who holds me dear in return. 🤍

Not, ‘ I’m lucky to have you. ‘

But we say,

‘ Razaqanī Allahu bika ‘

May Allah bless me with you as part of my rizq 😊

Allahu Akbar because He is greater☝️🌿💫

Astaghfirullah to wipe clean your mistake🤲💫

Never despair in Allah's mercy.🌷🤲💫

Tie your camel, then trust Allah.☝️🌷💫

He knows what is best.🤲🌸💫