Ramadan

MY DEAR MUSLIM SISTERS,

PLEASE,

OPEN YOUR EYES BEFORE SOMEONE BREAKS YOUR HEART.

Sister,

do not allow a man to deceive you simply because he knows how to speak sweetly, make you smile, or promise you a beautiful future.

Not every man who enters your DM has marriage in mind.
Not every man who says “I love you” is prepared to take responsibility for you. And not every man who talks about a future with you has sincere intentions.

Some will promise marriage but never take a serious step toward it.

Some will ask for your pictures, your time, your attention, and your emotions, only to disappear when you begin asking about commitment.

Others will keep you waiting, feeding you promises while you reject genuine opportunities to pursue a serious, halal marriage.

Sister, please do not confuse sweet words with sincere intentions.

When your time for marriage comes, what Allah has decreed for you will not miss you. You do not have to entertain every man in your DM to secure your future.

You can reply to a thousand messages and still encounter dishonesty. You can give one person your attention and still discover that his intentions were never sincere.

The number of men who approach you does not determine your worth, and having many men interested in you does not guarantee that any of them is suitable for marriage.

So, what should you do?📌📌📌

📍 Protect your heart and your dignity.
📍Do not rush into emotional attachment before establishing serious intentions.
📍 Ask direct questions about marriage.
📍 Involve your wali when a proposal becomes serious.
📍 Look for good character, religious commitment, honesty, and responsible actions.
📍Do not ignore warning signs simply because you have fallen in love.
📍Make du‘ā, seek wise counsel, and trust Allah.

Remember,

a man who genuinely intends to marry you should be willing to discuss a clear, respectful, and halal path forward rather than keeping you trapped in endless promises.

And sisters,

do not become so afraid of deception that you assume every man is evil. There are sincere men, just as there are insincere ones. Learn to distinguish between words and actions.

Your responsibility is not to chase marriage out of fear that time is running out. Your responsibility is to make wise choices while trusting Allah with what you cannot control.

Allah says:☝️

“And whoever relies upon Allah — then He is sufficient for him.”

📚Qur’an 65:3📚

My dear sister,

do not sacrifice your peace, your faith, or your boundaries just because you are afraid of remaining unmarried.

The right decision is not to entertain everybody. It is to choose wisely, proceed with dignity, and seek what pleases Allah.

May Allah protect our sisters from deception, grant them righteous husbands, and bless them with marriages filled with faith, honesty, affection, and mercy.

Āmīn.

Allah knows best.

Culturally women that express interest in a man are often accused of being shameless. They are called names and even face harsh words from the parents or family.

Many women are afraid of showing interest in a man for marriage because they fear what society will say about them.

Islam allows and gives women the right to choose who they want to marry.

There is nothing wrong with feeling inclined towards someone.

Islam provides a solution to channel your feelings in a halal and pure manner; marriage.

📖📖 Narrated Sahl bin Sa'd (R.A); 🗣️🗣️

A woman presented herself to the Prophet S.A.W for marriage. A man said to him. “O Allah's Messenger if you are not in need of her marry her to me.”

📖 [Bukhari]📖

This hadith goes on longer but the point is Sisters,

do not be to shy and think it to be not right for you to approach a brother for marriage.

Remember one of the greatest woman in the world proposed to Prophet Muhammad S.A.W our mother Khadija (R.A).

Just being upfront: I’m single, focused on the real deal, and looking for someone who is ready for marriage and the next steps

Looking for a life partner who values.

Deen & Akhlaq: Prays, fears Allah, and leads with good character and strong values.

Is honest, loyal, family-oriented and ambitious.

Wait for the right man sisters.

The pain of waiting for the right man is way less than marrying the wrong one in a hurry.

Also remember, it is much better to obey Allah and be single than be in a miserable marriage just for the sake of getting married.

Choose a man who will not only be a good husband but also be a good father to your progeny.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who doesn't pray.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who isn't respectful towards his women folk.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who doesn't believe in counselling and shura of elders.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who doesn't believes in lowering his gaze and watches porn.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who doesn't know how to forgive easily, to compliment you generously and to protect you.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who doesn't know how to be a responsible father to your children.

It is better to remain single than marry a man who doesn’t share in the cooking, cleaning and physical/spiritual raising of your children.

It is better to stay single and fast than to marry a brother who uses Islam to gaslight and spiritually abuse you.

Just short reminder

“Marry a broke man at your expense”

You people talk anyhow as if you don’t believe in Allah ﷻ,

☝️ Allah ﷻ who made your husband rich today can make him broke tomorrow,

does that mean your going to seek for divorce if that happens?

SubhanAllah!

let’s be careful with our words.

This generation of Muslims don’t know what “Riya”

means,

they just do anyhow without proper Islamic knowledge.

May Allah ﷻ guide & protect us all.

“IT’S MY LIFE,

I WILL DO WHATEVER I WANT!”

BUT HAVE YOU FORGOTTEN THE DAY YOU WILL RETURN TO ALLĀH?

“It's my money; I will spend it however I want.”

“It's my body; I will do whatever I want with it.”

“It's my life; nobody has the right to tell me how to live.”

“They're my children; I will raise them however I want.”

SubḥānAllāh. Have we forgotten something?

Who gave you the money? Who created your body? Who granted you life? And who entrusted those children to your care?

Was it not Allāh?

Then why do we behave as though His blessings belong to us without any responsibility or accountability?

Allāh asks in Sūrah Al-Qiyāmah:☝️☝️

﴿ أَيَحْسَبُ الْإِنسَانُ أَن يُتْرَكَ سُدًى ﴾

“Does man think that he will be left neglected?”

📖 Qur’an 75:36📖

🗣️🗣️ Ibn Kathīr explains that this means a human being will not be left without commands and prohibitions, nor without being resurrected and recompensed.

Dear brother, dear sister,

this Dunyā is not a place where you can do whatever you wish and escape the consequences forever.
📌
One day, the money you spent will be gone. The body you showed to the world will return to dust. The life you thought was entirely yours will come to an end. And the children you were entrusted with will grow up and stand before their Lord.

What will happen when the things you called “my choice” become things you must answer for before Allāh?

What if the wealth you were proud of becomes a witness against you because you earned or spent it unlawfully? What if the years you wasted in disobedience become your greatest regret? What if you neglected your children's upbringing and forgot that they were an amānah entrusted to you?

Remember: Allāh has given you choices, but He has not made you free from accountability.

The Prophet ﷺ said that every one of you is a shepherd and every one of you will be questioned about those under your care.

📖 Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 7138; Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1829.📖

So before saying, “It's my life,” remember that your life belongs to Allāh in the sense that He created you, sustains you, and has the ultimate right to command you. You are His servant, and you will return to Him.

The opportunity to repent is still here. The door of mercy is still open. Do not wait until the Day of Resurrection to wish you had lived differently.

May Allāh grant us istiqāmah upon the Dīn, purify our intentions, guide our families and children, and make our deeds a source of salvation rather than regret.

May the day we meet Allāh be better than the day we entered this world.

آمِينَ يَا رَبَّ الْعَالَمِينَ

Allāhu Aʿlam.

Note❌❌❌📌📌📌

📌 THINK ABOUT THIS!

Some people are begging Allah for one more chance to return to this world, but they can never return.

And you? You’re alive, walking freely, breathing without difficulty, healthy and strong.

Don’t waste the life they wish they could have again.

Use your health, strength, and time to please Allah, not to impress people, show off, or chase worldly attention.

One day, you may wish for one more chance. But today, you still have it. 💔

Some Masjid Tips.

• When u enter Masjid, don’t sit until u pray Tahiyatul Masjid

• No Nawafil Salah when Fard Salah is on.

• Join the Fard Salah at any point u met it.

• -Don’t wait for them to stand up

• Stop pushing kids behind by taking their positions

• -Come early.

A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE

A beautiful marriage is not defined by how expensive the wedding is, how many people attend, or how much attention the couple receives on social media.

📌 A wedding is not made beautiful by:

📖 A bride wearing revealing clothing.

📖 Couples dancing to music.

📖 Women exposing their bodies and shaking their waists and behinds to attract the attention of men.

📖 Spending excessively just to impress people.

📖 Blowing candles and copying traditions without considering whether they please Allah.

📌📌 A beautiful wedding is one that:

📚 Is affordable and free from extravagance.
📚 Upholds modesty and dignity.
📚 Avoids music and dancing that are impermissible in Islam.
📚 Avoids inappropriate mixing between men and women.
📚 Observes the limits Allah has established.
📚 Is conducted in accordance with the Qur’an and the authentic Sunnah.
📚 Seeks the pleasure of Allah rather than the praise of people.

The goal is not to impress the creation but to seek the pleasure of the Creator.

Look at what is happening in our time. Many people are becoming more concerned about fashion, celebrities, social media attention and public praise than about whether their actions please Allah.

But remember:🗣️🗣️ Islam is not old school. Obeying Allah is not outdated, and modesty is not a weakness.

We do not measure the beauty of a marriage by modern trends. We measure it by what Allah has permitted and what His Messenger ﷺ taught us.

The Prophet ﷺ, his Companions رضي الله عنهم, and the teachings of Islam are our guidance not celebrities, public opinion or the desire to impress people.

A wedding may go viral on social media, attract thousands of compliments and look beautiful to the world, yet we must still ask ourselves: Are we seeking Allah’s pleasure or the approval of people?

Some people spend so much to impress others, only to begin their married lives under financial pressure. Others choose simplicity, modesty and gratitude, remembering that a marriage is not a one-day celebration but a lifelong responsibility.

Dear brothers and sisters,

do not sacrifice your obedience to Allah for a few hours of entertainment or a few minutes of social media attention.

Let us return to the Qur’an and authentic Sunnah.

Let us make our marriages places of mercy, tranquillity, love, responsibility and obedience to Allah.

May Allah bless our marriages, protect our families from what displeases Him, grant us righteous spouses and children, and place barakah in our homes.

May Allah make our marriages pleasing to Him, not merely impressive to people. Āmīn.

Note: 📌📌 Not old school. Not a fashion trend. Not a celebrity standard. Just a sincere effort to follow what pleases Allah.

Wallāhu a‘lam.