Single Parents
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Genuinely looking for marriage, a home together, all of it. I've never been married, no kids, but I don't mind being with someone that does. If my person is out there somewhere. Find me inshallah.
🌷 Single Parents, Let’s Talk…
What’s one thing you do now that you never imagined you’d be good at?
For me, one of the surprising things about parenting is how many skills you pick up along the way. From fixing random things around the house to becoming a part-time chef, teacher, counselor, driver, negotiator, and event planner. 😂
Sometimes we focus so much on the challenges that we forget how much we’ve grown through the journey.
So I’m curious:
What’s a skill, habit, or strength that being a parent unexpectedly taught you? 🤔🌷
Looking forward to hearing your answers! 🤍
I was just thinking how much I dislike my ex husband but then I thought without him I wasn’t gonna have the piece of heaven ‘my son’ ❤️ . So I guess prospective matters. Still dislike him though but no it wasn’t all lose. الحمد لله. ربنا يحفظ أولادنا و يحميهم من كل شر
I have a one year old daughter and family is very important to me. I’m open to building a future with someone who has children as well, and I’d be happy to welcome and love them as part of our family❤️
Why Looking for Love Can Push Love Away
Unconscious People Look for Others to Complete Them
Many men and women enter relationships unconsciously believing another person will make them feel whole. They search for someone to remove loneliness, validate their worth, heal their insecurities, and give their life meaning. What they call love is often a search for completion.
Energy Is Siphoned Through Neediness
When someone is looking to get love rather than share love, they unconsciously pull energy from others. Their attention is focused on what they can receive rather than what they can contribute. This creates an invisible pressure within the relationship.
Need Creates a Repulsive Energy
People are naturally drawn to wholeness and repelled by excessive need. When someone desperately needs attention, validation, affection, or reassurance, others often feel the weight of that expectation. The very thing they seek begins to move further away.
Looking Outside Yourself Creates Dependence
The moment your happiness depends on another person’s presence, approval, or affection, your emotional state is no longer your own. You become dependent on external circumstances for inner stability. This creates anxiety, attachment, and fear of loss.
Chasing Love Creates Suffering
The more intensely someone chases love, the more they reinforce the belief that they do not already possess it. Every search is rooted in the assumption that something is missing. The feeling of lack grows stronger with every attempt to escape it.
The Void Cannot Be Filled by Another Person
No matter how loving a partner may be, they cannot permanently fill an inner void. They can provide moments of happiness, connection, and intimacy, but they cannot give someone a sense of self-worth that they do not already possess.
People Create Their Own Suffering
Much of the suffering in relationships comes not from other people but from expectations placed upon them. When someone expects another person to provide fulfillment, certainty, identity, or emotional security, disappointment becomes inevitable. The suffering is created by the expectation itself.
Love Flows Toward Wholeness
The healthiest relationships are formed by people who are already connected to themselves. They are not seeking rescue, completion, or validation. They come together to share their lives, not to fill an emptiness.
Stop Looking for Someone to Fill the Void
The greatest shift occurs when a person stops asking, “Who can give me love?” and begins asking, “How can I reconnect with the love already within me?” From that place, relationships become an expression of fullness rather than an attempt to escape lack.
