Muslims in the UK

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Salaam Everyone,

I’m in my late twenties and I’ve just started to take part in the dating / talking stage to find a husband.

Marriage has never been on my mind until recently. In my teenage years and early twenties I’ve been dealing with mental health issues and haven’t had the time or energy to entertain men. Also, school and work kept my mind occupied for so long.

One of my main preferences is a man who hasn’t been in any relationships or dated multiple women for a long period of time. I want a man who’s inexperienced just like me. However, a lot of Muslim men have been taking part in haram relationships as they get older and I’m scared I’ll end up with a man who has baggage and isn’t a virgin. I’ve noticed the men I find attractive are the main ones who partake in these relationships, and I’m getting worried that I’ll have to settle for a man I’m not attracted to, just so I don’t end up with one who’s been with multiple women.

How would I know? I feel like it’s easy to tell based on how they interact with women. Also, many of them love to boast about having ex’s or experiences with women and that’s great for me since I’m able to filter them out.

Anyway, am I weird for having this preference at my age?

Honestly the person i really want to marry is non Muslim. May Allah guide them to Islam. I pray almost every prayer that he guides them to Islam. Even if they aren’t meant for me in this life, i hope they can still become Muslim and go to jannah. I’ll want to be with them there. That’s how much i respect them and care about them. It’s not selfish, they are genuinely a good person and it’s just ashame if they follow the wrong path. Allah chooses whom he wants to guide. May Allah accept my dua. Maybe all my role is in their life is to pray for them and Allah can choose to guide them because he sees my sincerity.

Anyway.
May Allah guide the person whose initials are AP. Say Ameen. It’s the most blessed ten days of the year. May Allah grant us all good spouses and abundant prosperity and peace. Make dua guys and lots of dhikr 📿.

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🤔 Would you ask your hubby or wife to delete social media?

Honestly, I’d delete it… but I can’t. 🫢 I post videos because I love putting smiles on people’s faces. I also share fighting videos to show everyone: if Jay can do it, I can do it too — it’s all about motivation and proving that anything is possible! 💪✨

Some say yes — delete it to avoid drama and stay focused on each other. Others say no — it’s about trust and what you use it for.

For me? As long as I’m spreading joy and inspiring others, it’s worth it. ❤️

What would you do? Would you want your partner to delete it, or is it okay as long as their reasons are good? Let me know 👇

Getting married with disability

If you are single and getting married, this is what is on my mind.

People always tell me it’s better to marry back home, but I think that might not always be true. To be honest, I really used to want that, and let me be clear — I would marry someone from back home if she is good and has a beautiful nature. That is what matters most to me. But I would also love to marry someone right here in the UK too, if she is the right person.

Honestly, here in the UK, girls have said straight to me: “I rejected you.” That hurt, because they only look at my difficulties and not who I am inside. But I want to make this very clear — I am not desperate, and I am not begging for anything. That is not who I am at all.

I have speech and learning difficulties, and for a long time I felt embarrassed. But Alhamdulillah, this is part of who I am — it doesn’t stop me from being strong, kind, loyal, or able to provide and love properly. And important to know: I can have healthy babies, in shā Allāh. My disability does not affect that at all. I’m Bengali, from East London, I train hard every day — Judo, BJJ, boxing, weightlifting, Pilates. I work hard and want to achieve great things, and build a happy family one day, in shā Allāh.

Whether here or back home, I simply want someone patient, understanding, and happy — someone who sees my heart and character first, not just my differences. Marrying back home sounds lovely if she is good and kind; marrying here could be beautiful too, if people judged less and looked deeper. I know exactly what I am worth, and I know what I bring to a relationship and a family. I am just looking for the right person, that is all.

Does anyone else feel the same — open to both, but standing firm that you deserve to be seen for who you truly are and everything you can offer? Would love to hear your thoughts. 🤲💪

10 Signs You Are Being Led by Ego (Islamic View)

1. Rejecting advice
   You dismiss sincere advice or correction instead of reflecting on it, even when it is clearly beneficial.

2. Needing to always be right
   You struggle to admit mistakes and often argue to protect your image rather than seeking truth.

3. Getting offended quickly
   Small criticism or disagreement feels like a personal attack, so anger rises easily.

4. Looking down on others
   You feel superior because of knowledge, status, wealth, or religious practice.

5. Acting for people, not for Allah
   You change your behavior depending on who is watching, seeking approval rather than sincerity (ikhlas).

6. Struggling to forgive
   You hold grudges and find it hard to let go even when forgiveness is better.

7. Delaying repentance
   You know something is wrong but postpone tawbah because the ego resists humility.

8. Blaming others constantly
   You rarely take responsibility and often shift fault to people or circumstances.

9. Competing in status and recognition
   You compare yourself to others and feel uncomfortable when they succeed.

10. Losing humility in worship
    Even acts of worship can become prideful, where you feel “better” than others because of them.

Islamic reminder
The ego (nafs) is a test, but Allah elevates those who purify it. “Successful is the one who purifies it, and failed is the one who corrupts it” (Qur’an 91:9–10). Real strength is lowering the ego for the sake of All

Why Some Men Struggle in Islam

Shaytan and human weakness
Men don’t “keep getting it wrong” in Islam because masculinity is flawed, but because responsibility is heavy and human weakness is real. Shaytan targets both men and women, mainly through ego, desire, anger, and distraction.

Loss of direction, not loss of masculinity
When a man is disconnected from Allah, he doesn’t lose masculinity—he loses direction. The issue is not strength, but lack of taqwa, discipline, and grounding in revelation.

Lack of guidance and responsibility
Many men today struggle because they lack mentorship, righteous environments, and proper Islamic training in responsibility. Without that, leadership either becomes avoidance or misuse.

The Islamic moral
Strength without iman becomes chaos, and responsibility without guidance becomes confusion. Real masculinity in Islam is carrying responsibility for Allah, with sincerity, self-control, and accountability.

Suddenly the word “love” only belongs on fantasy tiktoks… games gone