Muslims in London

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Natural connection vs Connection based on requirements.
If we read long lasting married couple stories, Muslim or non-Muslim, then we may find a common similarity in all of them. When they first met to each other, they automatically realised there is something in the air. Societal status, financial, educational qualification, appearance or even age gaps didn't matter for them. It's just happened. They got married based on their inside natural connection and that's the secret of their long lasting marriage.

If good requirements can create good married life, simple question, then why people get divorced? High profile professionals, doctors, engineers, professors with PhD degrees get divorced. Most beautiful women and most handsome man with perfect body measurement still get divorced.

Then what makes a happy married life?

When a couple decide to get divorced then it's obvious that they definitely got married based on materialistic requirements. Once their materialistic requirements get fulfilled they find no longer connection between them. They begin to behave toxic and end up in divorce.

As Muslim we must focus on one requirement, seeking satisfaction of the Almighty Allah. Our beloved Prophet PBUH said Muslims must get married, build family. So, we must get married to follow Sunnah. When both man and woman solely focus on this requirement only, seeking Almighty Allah's satisfaction by following Sunnah and get married then that marriage lasts life long. Because both husband and wife equally seek Allah's satisfaction and sacrifice their comforts to stay together. For this reason, the connection between them never ends until death.

My next-door uncle and auntie married for more than 50 years, they get sad if they can't see one another for a while. Seems their connection is very strong. One day uncle asked to order a dress online that auntie once talked about. So, I tried to find the dress according to his description, and bought it. He told me not to tell auntie at all about this. I knew the reason, normally auntie receives all deliveries. So, she will get it automatically when it arrives and it will be a big surprise for her. And tbh, it was like that. I saw the smile on auntie's face when she received it. I strongly believe, when they decided to get married 50 years ago they definitely didn't focus on any kind of materialistic requirements and their parents really did a very good job by finding perfect matche for each other.

I feel very lonely these days 😅 I can’t explain what’s wrong cause I’m happy with my life but I still feel it and idk what to do. Any advice

3 meetings one on one and Nikkah?
Or first Nikkah and then one on one?

People pleasing is a major sign of no self respect yuck

Shocked some people dont have arthritis in their fingers from spam commenting on people's posts.

Been using this app for a few months and havent gotten 1 match, is it a me problem?

Bollywood is actually the most demasculating thing on this earth.

The men who grew up watching it and idolising bollywood actors have this wierd aura about them, it's like no matter what they do in life they just look like they're wearing a saree 24/7