The 40s

Based on your experience in the search for a potential, do you agree or disagree to this :

Age doesnt necessarily mean maturity (even though you hoped it would apply by this age group).

Hello every one

Anyone in uae?

Advice please. I got a good man but unfortunately he is 3 years younger than me. I have been hesitant to be more than friends with him. He is mature in his thinking but I don't feel comfortable with him just bkoz of the age difference. What should I do.

Everybody says there are good men out there but the big question is where are they? How can you tell from the word go that this is a good man?
Some are good at pretending. Some will even lie big time.

Life is a journey, with twist and turns that sometimes makes you think twice about certain choices 🤔🤔

SIX MONTHS ON THIS APP AND THIS IS SOMETHING I FEEL WOMEN NEED TO KNOW.

I have been on this app for almost six months now, and honestly, my experience has been extremely disappointing.

I have spoken to enough men by now to recognize a pattern...clearly many are not here looking for marriage at all. They are here for convenience, companionship, sex, and sometimes financial support.

And before anyone gets offended, let me make this absolutely clear:

I am Pakistani myself. I am NOT targeting an ethnicity. I am talking about patterns I have personally encountered repeatedly, particularly among men from Pashtun backgrounds whom I have interacted with on this app and in the UAE.

I know my own culture and society. I know the reality of how traditionally some Pashtun families arrange marriages.

Many men in conservative families marry very young sometimes around 18 or 19, often within extended family (1st cousins) or within their own community. By their late 20s, 30s and 40s, some already have wives and several children back home.

And then they come to the UAE.

Particularly among men working in lower-income or labour-sector jobs, sponsoring or maintaining an entire family here in the UAE can be financially extremely difficult. That is where, according to what I have personally encountered, some men start looking desperately on matrimonial apps.

Not a wife. Not a genuine future.

But a sexual relationship.

A woman who can provide companionship, intimacy, attention and sometimes even financial help.

And yes, I have encountered men who expect the woman to pay for practically everything: petrol, food, outings, hotel rooms and entertainment.

Basically, they want the benefits of a relationship without taking responsibility for one.

And some are simultaneously presenting themselves as single, divorced, separated or “looking for a second marriage.”

Ladies, PLEASE do not believe everything you are told on Muzz app or any other matrimony app.

If a man is 30, 35 or 40+ and tells you he is looking for marriage, ask yourself some very basic questions:

Where is his family? Is he actually divorced? Does he have children? Where does his wife live?
Can he openly introduce you to his family?
Is he genuinely free to marry you, or is he only looking for something secret?
What exactly does “second marriage” mean in his situation?

And most importantly:

Who is actually going to take responsibility for this marriage?

Because saying “I want marriage” on a matrimony app costs absolutely nothing.

Some men know exactly what women want to hear.

They will talk about marriage, future plans, love, commitment and even religion while their actual objective is simply to find someone in the UAE who can satisfy their emotional, physical or financial needs.

And I want to say something specifically to women from other nationalities, including Filipina women, because I have personally seen Pakistani men and Filipina women connecting/ dating frequently in the UAE.

PLEASE be careful.

Do not assume that because a man is Pakistani, Muslim, respectable looking, religious, educated, or talks about marriage, he is automatically available and serious about marrying you.

VERIFY.

Don't transfer him money. Don't start paying his expenses. Don't become his petrol sponsor. Don't become his hotel sponsor. Don't become his entertainment budget.

And please don't give someone your body and your emotions simply because he keeps promising that “one day” he will marry you.

There are also men who are already married, already have children, and are using matrimonial apps in the UAE for purposes that have absolutely nothing to do with marriage.

And when you ask difficult questions, suddenly the story changes.

Suddenly there are excuses. Suddenly the family is complicated. Suddenly the divorce papers are “coming.” Suddenly the second marriage is “not possible right now.” Suddenly you are asked to keep everything secret.

Ladies, that is exactly when you need to step back.

I am sharing this because I have spent almost six months on this app and I have personally experienced enough disappointment to know that women need to be much more careful.

Attention is not commitment.
Se*xual interest is not love.
Promises are not marriage.
And a man saying he wants a wife does not make him available to become one.

Please protect your heart, your body, your money and your dignity.

Do your homework before you get emotionally involved.

Awareness is not hatred.
Questioning someone's intentions is not racism.
And sharing my personal experience is not an attack on an entire community.

I am simply telling women what I have personally seen and experienced.

Ladies, please be careful. Not every man on a marriage app is there to get married.

May Allah guide us all towards what is right and protect us from people who come into our lives with dishonest intentions.
Wish you all the very best. 🤲🏻

I need financial advice.
Im planning to make a huge investment decision. It would require movement of funds with a proper money trail.
The investment decision is Should I invest puray Rs 2000 on Muzz Gold ya should I have coffee at the Second Cup instead.
Please come up with a proper presentation that includes the financial viability backed with a robust financial decision model.
Shukria.

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