Psychology & Neurodiversity
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From human behaviour to neurodiverse perspectives, explore how we think, feel, and experience the world 🧠
The saddest part? Nobody notices when the strongest person starts breaking quietly.
Some beautiful sayings by Ibn al-Qayyim:
Do not say: "I succeeded," rather say: "Allah granted me success."
Do not say: "I was correct," rather say: "Allah guided me to the right path."
Do not say: "I earned [my wealth]," rather say: "Allah provided for me."
And remember:
"And you threw not when you threw, but it was Allah who threw." (Quran 8:17)
And know that you will never find anyone more merciful to you than Allah. By Allah, if the one prostrating knew the mercy that envelops them during their prostration, they would never want to lift their head. 🥺🌸
Personal:
I am "unapproachable"(in the physical world) and for a long time I didn't mind it at all, I actually loved it because it saved me so much time.
But now I want to be approachable(I have my reasons).
When I ask people about what makes me seem that way, reasons they give "threatening", "Intimidating", "stay away vibe", "you seem fine on your own", "out of reach".
Which all 'feel' like they're dodging the real reasons, or they just cant describe it.
Most people when they interact with me or deal with me on regular basis seem very nervous at first but once the first 30 second of the interaction passes, they ease up very fast, and they usually later comment on how it was nerve racking the idea of approaching me.
I tried some behavioral tricks such as being the "first to approach always" and it works very well but sometimes can create a problem as to what if I want to end the interaction because I am no longer interested, its a bit disrespectful to open smth and then close it the second you aren't interested anymore.
Has anyone dealt with this before(Especially men) and actually managed to change it, any suggestions?
I have been very angry recently. I tested my cortisol find it high. What can I do? And how to tell people around me that I am easily irritated by them?
Hi everyone, how you doing today ? I hope you doing well all.
I just wanna know, everyone want deserve better for everythingor get respect. So may I know have you do something nice or respect everebody even this is a homeless ?
HOW TO REBUILD AFTER BETRAYAL?
Rebuilding after betrayal requires effort, patience, and commitment from all parties involved. Here are some steps to consider:
1.Allow yourself to feel the emotions:
Acknowledge the pain and give yourself time to process your feelings.
2.Communicate openly:
Have honest conversations with the person who betrayed you, if you feel safe doing so.
3.Set boundaries:
Establish clear expectations for future behavior.
4.Focus on self-care:
Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.
5.Seek support:
Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist for guidance.
6.Evaluate the relationship:
Consider whether it's possible to rebuild trust and if it's healthy to continue.
7.Forgive (if possible):
Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation, it's about releasing negative emotions.
8.Rebuild trust gradually:
Small steps and consistent actions can help restore trust over time.
Rebuilding trust is a journey, and it's essential to prioritize your own healing and well-being.
The Availability Heuristic:
Why your brain thinks a few examples = reality
Your brain doesn’t count reality. It remembers what stands out. If something is easy to remember, repeated often, emotional, shocking, or constantly in front of your face, your brain starts assuming:
“This must be common.”
Examples:
• You see 20 videos of women saying “men are trash”
Brain: “Women today hate men.”
Reality: You may have watched 20 clips out of millions of women.
• You see men flooding comment sections with 🔥😍
Brain: “Men are desperate.”
Reality: It could be the same small group commenting on hundreds of posts while millions of men say nothing.
• You hear about a plane crash on the news
Brain: “Flying is dangerous.”
Reality: Driving is statistically far riskier, but car journeys don’t make headlines.
• You see 10 luxury lifestyles on social media
Brain: “Everyone is rich except me.”
Reality: You’re comparing your everyday life to people’s highlight reels.
What’s actually real?
The internet is a magnifying glass, not a mirror.
The loudest voices are not always the largest groups.
The most visible people are not always the most common people.
And the most repeated thing isn’t always the most true thing.
Most people are not spending all day fighting gender wars online.
They’re at work.
They’re raising children.
They’re paying bills.
They’re living ordinary lives.
Your brain sees what is available, not necessarily what is accurate.