Psychology & Neurodiversity
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If you have two eyes, why do you see people with your ears?
Treat people with what you see from them, not what you hear about them
"HOW TO SPOT BREADCRUMBS"
Spotting breadcrumbs in relationships involves recognizing inconsistent or minimal efforts from the other person. Here are some signs:
1.Inconsistent communication:
They only reach out sporadically, and their responses are brief or vague.
2.Lack of concrete plans:
They make plans but cancel or don't follow through, or they're vague about future meetings.
3.Mixed signals:
They show interest one moment, then become distant or unresponsive the next.
4.Minimal effort:
They put in minimal effort to get to know you or support you emotionally.
5.Focus on physical intimacy:
The relationship is primarily physical, with little emotional connection or commitment.
6.No labels or commitment:
They avoid labels or committing to the relationship, leaving you uncertain.
7.You're always initiating:
You're the one initiating conversations, making plans, and putting in effort to keep the relationship going.
If you notice these patterns,,, it may be a sign that the other person is breadcrumbing you, leaving you with false hope or uncertainty. Prioritize your own emotional well-being and consider reevaluating the relationship.
I used to always say that looks don’t matter, and that when you truly love someone, you automatically see them as the most beautiful person in the world. And honestly, I still believe that.
But as I grow up and start meeting people through arranged dating, I realized something confusing… looks do matter at first.
So here is the confusion
If love makes someone beautiful in your eyes, then why does attraction matter before love even begins?
What makes a man involve his family in a proposal, then suddenly ghost without explanation?!
As a man, the hardest thing I had to do 2 years AFTER a breakup from a very intense & committed relationship- was to sit with myself, and finally say, "She wasn't my person." The dysregulation, and anxiety of dating a Narcissist makes you lose your mind and identity.
Why it took so long for this realization- I'm not sure. Perhaps, it took being around Believers and seeing what intentiality and peace actually feels like.
Fellas, when you can tell your "talking stage" person about your healing - cuff her asap.
Thank you @muzz
Treat everybody like a somebody. Even if they are a nobody.
The longer I stay here, the more I notice a psychological contradiction in some men who present themselves as very “Islamic,” yet behave in the opposite way, seeking temporary marriages or even long term partners mainly as a loophole to justify physical relationships.
It feels like a form of cognitive dissonance, where actions don’t align with beliefs, but are rationalized to reduce inner conflict.
So it makes me wonder, are you actually more afraid of social or legal consequences than of committing a major sin? I genuinely can’t wrap my head around that 😂